My mum lies a lot. I think my dad does it too but I speak to my mum more.
Shes 64 and I’m 37. A friend has said to just let it go and accept she isn’t going to be who I want and to just enjoy the good parts of my relationship with her. Is she right?
I refuse to allow Dd (2) to be alone with my parents because of these lies. The lies are small and insignificant but I don’t know why they do it and it makes me wonder at which point would they stop? Would they lie about anything?
A few days ago my mum brought dd an apple from home when we met at a park and specifically told me that it was organic. i hadnt asked and I don’t know why she said it, I presume she thought I wouldn’t want dd to have it if it wasn’t organic (this isn’t the case, I wouldn’t have cared). Anyway on the way back to the car dd asks for another apple and mum goes into the bag and takes one from the pack, I can see they are not organic. This is just one example of many things like this. They are all small things but it damages my trust in her so much. She is not mentally unwell in any way.
I feel upset and angry and patronised that she seems to want to control and manipulate me with these small lies. AIBU? Is my friend right that she’s older now so just accept she won’t change? She’s done this sort of thing for as long as I can remember. If I call her out on it there’s a huge row and she will just say she got confused etc then nothing changes anyway.