Lingerie

[DoraSpenlow]

I'll probably get flamed but here goes.

Following on from the thread about being brought sexy lingerie for Valentine's Day, am I the only one who thinks you need a good figure to really look 'sexy'. I'm flat chested with no backside and a pot belly. The only time DH bought me something along those lines (many, many years ago) I looked and felt ridiculous and we both ended up laughing. I don't think I have ever looked or felt sexy and don't think that a few scraps of strategically placed material is going to change things if what's underneath isn't all that.

Is it just me?

Sexy lingerie is meant to be empowering and make you feel good. If however you don't feel good trussed up like a turkey, then you shouldn't feel bad about it. There's nothing wrong with feeling uncomfortable in something and so avoiding it (even if your husband/ society say's you should love it and find it empowering). Instead you should wear something that makes you feel good - even if it's a baggy top and tracksuit bottoms... if it makes you feel more comfortable in yourself and makes you happier to get in the mood then so be it.

I don't think you need a big pair of mittens to look sexy. Tim Curry had no mittens whatsoever in Rocky Horror and he looked great in that basque 🤣

Having become single in the last year I really appreciate now how nice underwear can make me feel. I’m plus size 14/16 and I stick it on now and feel sexy. I think I got so comfortable that I forgot how it felt to wear something nice. Yes I have fat rolls and a belly but I just have so much more confidence now when I wear it

It’s not all about confidence. I’m fairly confident (and overweight) but some stuff looks cracking on me and some stuff looks awful. Doesn’t matter if we are talking clothes or lingerie.

However. Your confidence issue appears to be about the unwrapping. So wear something that you don’t unwrap. Crotchless version of whatever you like. Keep it on and it’ll make you both feel you are trying something new.

No, but you need to pick the right thing. Something designed to push up your breasts and clinch the waist prob isn't the right thing. I have been both body shapes both real skinny and flat chested and now fairly curvey and different lingerie looks better on me now and some thing. I found like scrappy bondadge harness kind of lingerie looked better then as now sometimes I feel like scrappy stuff like that clinches some of my fat in and makes me look kind of like meat wrapped in strong 😂 but some of the moste push up big cleavage stuff looked a bit silly on me then.

I think it's just a case of trying different things and finding things you personally feel confident in

My husband will buy me the odd thing he sees and likes the look off, but it’s usually really sl!??y stuff lol. He doesn’t expect me to wear it in to the office or whatever but he does like it if it’s just me and him and I tell him I have it on. I have to say in the last few yrs I’ve gained a lot of weight, but if truth be known he seems more attracted to me than ever ( or at least it feels that way to me ). The last thing he bought me was very ill fitting and I can honestly say I didn’t feel sexy in the least but he seemed to really love it. We’re together 25 yrs so maybe somewhere a long the way it becomes more a bout trying something out, you might not understand why but he enjoys it, and the sexy bit for him is the fact you’re prepared to do it here and there for him.

Yes, skinny jeans look awful on people with fat thighs that touch! It makes them look like they have bowed legs. Fact.

Don't take it personally - I'm just saying there are SO many different styles of clothes, just wear something that suits the body size and shape! It's not difficult.

The appeal of lingerie in these situations is novelty and it shows a willingness to please, both of which are sexual stimulators.

My husbands tells me I'm sexy all the time lol I've had 3 children, I've gained 20lbs since we met and feel very unsexy. I have no problem in indulging him by wearing lingerie he regards as sexy. After a few glasses of Asti, I could be wearing a boiler suit for all I cared!