To use my ds stepmoms name for our baby?

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I have always had a name in mind for a girl, I've had my heart set on this name forever.
However I had a boy and now I've remarried and ds is 19.
I am now pregnant with a girl and ex husband has a long term relationship with a woman with this name.
She is technically my ds stepmom really and they have a child together.
I really love this name and I've never met her so it wouldn't have any connection with her to me but ds knows her so would this be too weird for him if I used this name?

Ask him.

At 19 - just ask him

I didn't ask him because I didn't want to bring the connection to light, it seemed easier if he didn't think we'd think of that not having met her and her not meaning anything to us.

No, I think it’s fine. I’d look at it that she has the same name that your daughter was always going to have.

I personally think it's odd that you would want to do that. It would be very awkward for your ds too. Husbands ex wife names her new baby after the current wife - very weird.

Exh knows this was the name I was going to use if I we had a girl and ds knows he would have been this if he was a girl.

My brother had the same name as our stepdad, it's a very common name and we don't think about it.
He was born beforehand though.

Did you go for it, OP?