Apologies, this is a vent and it may be that IABU but I’m so fed up.
Ex was highly abusive. I left him seven years ago when DCs were 11, 9 and 5.
He influenced eldest DS into living with him and cut him off from the rest of us for many years (he has only recently been making regular contact since turning 18)
He has seen the other two DC very sporadically, and despite this was taking child benefit for all of them for the first year and has never paid a penny in child support.
On the rare occasions he has seen DD or DS2, (he goes through phases of favouring or the other of them, never has them together), he takes massive liberties - turns up when it suits, makes arrangements to bring them back at a certain time and then does as he pleases - doesn’t let me know whether he’s feeding them, etc. etc.
This week, he has been pressuring DS2 into taking a part time job locally with someone he knows. Didn’t mention days / hours / pay and put huge pressure on to accept. DS2 didn’t know what to say as he didn’t have the full information and he is currently studying for his GCSEs. Today, ex announced he was collecting DS2 to take him to meet the person offering the job. Told DS2 he would be there for an hour. DD on the spur of the moment asked if she could go too, and to my surprise, ex agreed.
This was at 4 o clock and there’s no sign of them.
Have no idea about dinner, whether they’ll come back fed or not.
DS2 was meant to go to sports practice and has now just not turned up, which will affect him being chosen to play in the weekend match (which by he’ll be really upset about)
WHY does ex have to be such an inconsiderate arse??