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Pick me up please

14 replies

Harshreality · 14/02/2024 08:50

Last night, my dh and ds 10 had a manly night in the loft. We've got darts up there and pool so it was sleeping bags and snacks. Good times.

Ds comes down this morning and gets in for a cuddle with me and says I think I love dad more. And I said well we have different love for different people, you can have a box of love for dad and a box of different love for me.

He said no I have no love left for you, I love dad.

I know he didn't mean it and he'd just had a great boys night but it reeeeally really hurt.

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Hoglet70 · 14/02/2024 08:53

Kids are so tactless. It does feel hurtful but you know he doesn't mean it and if you suddenly produced a Mars Bar for breakfast he'd love you more.

TheDuck2018 · 14/02/2024 09:14

That's a really horrible thing to say! I'd have been hurt too. What did you say to him after he'd said that?

scorpiogirly · 14/02/2024 09:19

He didn't mean it as others have said. My daughter is 5 and I'm constantly getting told she hates me, go away, she doesn't like me etc. It hurts at first but it's like water of a duck's back now.

Notimeforaname · 14/02/2024 09:20

Kids are arseholes , dont listen to them 🤣

anythinginapinch · 14/02/2024 09:20

Hes cuddling YOU, and sharing this imost private feeling with the person he loves and trusts most in the world. Prob because he can't tell his dad!

emilyasp · 14/02/2024 09:21

I said similar to my mum when around that age. I can confirm it wasn’t ever true and I don’t think I ever even realised what I’d said! Appreciate it hurts though.

ShennyInfinity · 14/02/2024 09:23

Ah no, he's still reeling from the 'man's night out' he doesn't mean it but I totally get why you're hurt. If I took on board everything my kids said to me when they were little I'd have topped myself a long time ago, no one can replace a mum X

MamaGhina · 14/02/2024 09:23

I’d have told him that was a mean thing to say to someone and it hurt my feelings. You don’t want him being that ‘blunt’ with his friends etc he should be taught when it’s ok to be brutally honest and when it isn’t.

Galeforcewindatmywindow · 14/02/2024 09:25

Ds 9 keeps asking me what life was like when I was born in the 1800's...
I was born in 1971....
Dc are shit heads...

KreedKafer · 14/02/2024 10:28

I think he's testing you to see if you still love him, even though he says he doesn't love you. A lot of kids do (if only subconsciously) do this.

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Harshreality · 14/02/2024 16:46

Thank so much everyone. I really appreciate all the love, I really do.

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MissyB1 · 14/02/2024 16:49

MamaGhina · 14/02/2024 09:23

I knocked kids can be tactless but I agree with this 👆
If they say unkind things they need to be told, especially at his age! Frankly he’s old enough to know you don’t say that to your mum.
I would have asked him how he would feel if you said you didn’t love him.

Mumof2NDers · 14/02/2024 16:49

Mine, when he was about 7 asked if me and DH were splitting up (one of his friends parents were) I said no. So he told me “just so you know, if you do ever split I’m going to live with dad” 😂

MotherofChaosandDestruction · 14/02/2024 16:50

Honestly kids can be horrid sometimes. DC dad is barely there and when he is he's a Disney dad so I'm always getting told he's better, they don't miss me when they aren't with me after I've told them I missed them lots, they hate me etc. I hope they don't mean it but it stings every time.

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