To be annoyed about this work situation?

[TheSalesGirl]

I was asked to train 3 new people at work, alongside a male colleague. The new people are all also male.

We have been training them for a month now and they literally ignore everything I say. They go straight to my male colleague with any questions and if I ever show them how to do anything or answer any of their questions they go to my colleague for confirmation.

They all constantly praise my colleague for training them and say how amazing he is, and also all call him 'boss!'.

I barely get a good morning from any of them!

I have spoken to our manager who said to just ignore it and that they don't mean it.

AIBU to be fuming?

Any chance you can pull out of training them?
It is very poor attitude from them, but I would be most pissed off at your colleague who should be supporting you and discourage their behaviour.

If he isn't and your manager is not helping, then in my experience it's better to take a deep breath and move away from the situation.

Yes this would really annoy me, it is rude and your manager (male by any chance?) Isn't being particularly helpful or supportive either!

Can you take a step back with the training?

Suggest that your time would be better used elsewhere.

Could you offer them some training on sexism and misogyny in the workplace, @TheSalesGirl? You can tell them their behaviour is a perfect example of this.

Yes I’d be wanting to know WHY this is happening?
Im not sure it’s as simple as they’re men and you’re a woman.
I work with 97% male workforce and whilst we do encounter various issues around misogyny most can be cleared up pretty quick.

I think what stands out is all 3 are doing this behaviour, therefore I hate to say it, but could it be you? And I’d it’s not then it’s your male colleague twisting things.
So I’m basically saying, I doubt it’s all 3 doing something wrong, it’s either you or your colleague that I’d be looking at and wondering where it’s going wrong.

Call them out. Say if you're just going to ask xyz for confirmation then don't bother asking me first.

So you have three new people, colleague and manager all behaving like this/telling you not to worry your pretty little head? No one is supporting you or dealing with the problem?

I would say you have a cultural/manager problem.

Refuse to train them.

Have you asked the trainees directly for some feedback to rule out if they are struggling with your training style, or if they find your colleagues training style or personality more approachable.

Can you split the training into topics and ask your colleague to redirect them to you if your topic?

As you manager to give you colleague more work so he doesn't have time to answer all their questions..

Or just be glad you can get on with your work instead of having to do training!

@Blanketpolicy yeah I think I will be just glad I no longer have to do the training tbh. I'll leave it all to my super amazing colleague!

To who said maybe it's me, well yes that is a possibility. I don't think I'm doing anything fundamentally wrong but who knows.

Anyway, I feel better after having a rant on here so I do appreciate you all listening to me and the replies.

I'll let them just get on with it.