Fed up of all the “shmoozing”

[DoneandDo]

I work in finance, I’m going to try and be somewhat cryptic as I don’t really want this to be found and get back to anyone.
The company I work for are still somewhat family oriented, two of the managing partners are from the original family who founded the company. The London office is on the smaller side, they are generally more focused on the European side, so we don’t have to deal with them all that much, our CEO is pretty great and I like where I work.

The daughter of one of the managing partners (family side) is studying in London, 2nd year of uni. It’s well known the next generation of Managing Partners and Board of Directors will overwhelmingly me her and her cousins - it’s just the nature of the company.
One day a week she comes into the office, we have all been told it’s for experience, getting to see how everything works etc. Great!!
But this girl is a little intolerable, obviously her family are worth 10s if not 100s of millions. She’s clearly never wanted for anything, seems to spend her life at private members clubs or partying. Just generally a bit up herself.
At my office there is one other person with the same role as me/client facing etc. He’s a bit of a prat on the best of days but whenever she is in, is absolutely revolting. He already hogs resources (especially the assistants/associates who are meant to be working for both of us) but when she is in, will blatantly flirt, couldn’t be nicer!! He’s one example of someone who seems to “shmooz” her. The CEO/CFO are both invite her into meetings that she absolutely does not have the knowledge or skill to be in and she will waltz out at 4 leaving work hanging to go drink with those on flexitime (she is too but comes in at 9 so should be working until 5.30).
It’s exhausting, we don’t have many women in the office as is and her “I’m so silly, but at least I’m pretty” act makes it harder for the rest of us to be taken seriously. She is more of a hinderance than a help and all the shmoozing is exhausting to watch.

AIBU to be totally fed up and fucked off with it. Obviously can’t go to management as they won’t do anything!! So fed up with it all!!

You sound really bitter and jealous. If you work in finance surely you should be used to lots of shmoozing especially if your client facing.
of course she has to be in senior Meetings, she will have a leading role in the company one day. Why would she work a full day when she is also a student and from the owners family. You are very naive about all of this.

Calling a grown woman “a girl” because clearly you despise her privilege is also rude.

For what it’s worth I have worked with a Next Gens and see very young people take on C suite roles before they are 30. That’s how family businesses work.
Clearly she is in senior meetings to learn, whether she goes to private clubs/parties a lot is neither here nor there. Why does it bother you that she is invited to the meetings?

unless there is a massive drip feed you haven’t mentioned anything where she has behaved silly or made life harder for other women.

of course your colleague is trying to shmooze her, she is from the owner’s family! Why don’t you just focus on yourself and maybe being nice to another young woman trying to learn the ropes.

Most university students like to party btw 😂

can you look for another job? It sounds a bit strange, too many relatives which could hinder your chance of promotion

I would find a job elsewhere as the company sounds like they're stuck in the 1980's with all that nepotism. Ignore the previous posters unhelpful accusations of bitterness. I too work in finance and we're a lot fairer and professional than that, in other companies. Go somewhere else that has good reviews from staff, online. Glassdoor will give you a good idea of the best ones. Don't settle for working with stone age capitalist idiots! People are getting less tolerant of this more and more, quite rightly. Good luck!

I don’t really want to. The chances of promotion are actually pretty good, she has 2 cousins so realistically 3 of them will be CEOs of an office each at some point, be on the board of directors and be managing partners.
There are a fair few offices, and many in more exciting/desirable places than London, so she’s unlikely to stay after uni.
I’m not interested in the CEO role anyway - more likely to be going CFO if I go down the C-Suite route but I’m not exactly interested in that either.
The progression is generally good, and they are supportive of personal development and quite generous with mat leave etc.

I don’t necessarily see it as nepotism. The company is set up as an Unlimited liability partnership for the shareholders (the original family mainly). I can see why they would want it to remain family run when their personal wealth is on the line. It’s more just the level of shmoozing this girl receives. I don’t think any of it will help her be a better leader when the time comes!

I see your point, OP! I know it's great to have children being interested in carrying on the family name in a business but it needs to be thought through properly. I hope you feel more comfortable there soon!

@DoneandDo you are very naive. Of course everyone is going to try and impress the future leader and daughter of a current board member (or MD).

stop calling her “girl” she is not 12!