AIBU because I want to break friendships that I feel disconnected from?

[2under3inkent]

I'm 31 and have 2 children age 3 and 1 and I am struggling to find mums that I really click with anymore.
When I had my son I felt desperate to be liked and just went off and became friends with any mum who chatted to me. As I've got older I realise I don't share anything in common with most of them apart from the fact our children are similar age.
I like to talk about current affairs, politics, places to visit as a family. Most of them just talk about nights out, the latest argument with their partner or moaning about their kids. It's fine to do all those things but that's ALL they do. I moan about my kids driving me up the wall but not constantly. I just want someone to chat with about the world, or go to new places and explore. I just don't know if I'm being unreasonable by wanting to step back from these mums.

Why do you have to find other 'mums' though?

Not mum friends per se, but friends that you no longer have much in common with, then yes.

I'm no longer in touch with a lot of uni friends because our lives went in different directions and our values were different too. I feel a bit guilty but I did a bit of ghosting. Got occasional emails that I couldn't think of how to answer and it dragged on. Never did answer.

In your situation it's trickier though as they are around regularly. Maybe withdraw slowly.

Well it's not the law that you have to stay friends with people just because you have children of a similar age, but I think it depends - do you actively dislike spending time with them, or do you like them well enough but feel you could potentially 'do better', so to speak? Because if it's the latter you can always look for new friends while still keeping up with the existing ones, it doesn't have to be either/or.

YANBU.
Have had this over the years (old gimmer)
You might reconnect later (I have when situations change) but definitely only spend time with people who nourish you (and vice versa)

I would. Your obviously so much better than them.

In other news, you don't actually have to do anything. But bear in mind that being friendly with the mothers of your child's friends can be funand useful.