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Do I email my boss?

29 replies

ShalommJackie · 12/02/2024 17:00

I've posted about this before but then someone sent me a message saying that they knew who I was so I've name changed. Although I don't care anymore. If anyone recognises this post 'Hi'

I'm being bullied by my boss, her deputy and the band 8/9 who has control of the entire department. (NHS)

I've drafted an email that I want to send. Basically my manager's boss googled the medication I'm on and asked if I was a danger to the department, asked if I had active psychosis, asked if I thought I was going 'smash the place up' or 'go psycho'

I'm on antipsychotics for my bipolar and they stop me from getting manic, I'm not a risk to anyone, except my bank account when I'm manic.

I've spoken to HR about a grievance and I've spoken to my union who are horrified. I've also spoken to the freedom to speak up guardian who agreed that I have a case.

‘*Dear X

I had a meeting with Y regarding me returning to work.

I am concerned with a number of comments made during this meeting I wish to bring to your attention.

During the meeting Y asked me to disclose the medication I am currently taking. On listing these I also gave some medication I am taking for my mental health.

Y proceeded to research the medication on Google and made comments of ‘are you safe to work here’ and ‘are you a risk to me’

These comments are offensive and inappropriate.

My mental health was not related in any way to my recent absence from work and should not therefore be subject to any back to work review. Insofar as my mental health issues are relevant to any return to work discussions I would expect them to be dealt with in a confidential and sensitive manner which I do not feel has happened on this occasion.

I would be grateful if you could contact me to discuss how this matter can be dealt with and what steps are going to be taken to avoid this issue arising again’*

I don't know if I should just crack on with the grievance without telling my manager?

OP posts:
theduchessofspork · 27/02/2024 00:03

Go to HR with your union's advice

This sounds appalling so you need to follow formal proceedure.

nocoolnamesleft · 27/02/2024 00:04

The reply to that is "Yes, I agree that I need to bring a witness to all meetings."

ShalommJackie · 27/02/2024 00:09

I'm also off sick at the moment because I am having cancer surgery on Thursday and so many scans this week. My manager is having my absence meeting without me tomorrow because I won't attend whilst off work.

She's trying to make me attend a policy change meeting on Friday which I have declined (just started another thread on that)

Good call saying yes I agree we do need independent witnesses

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DaftyLass · 27/02/2024 00:14

I am sorry to hear you are dealing with this, on top of cancer.
Id say grievance is the way to go

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