Is my friend being a prude?

[Roiesin57]

This is not about me, but my best friend who does not use social media,including mumset. She still badgers me to read it on my phone though. Get your own account dbf! 😀
Over the last few months she has reconnected with an ex from 40 years ago & they still have a connection which has been nice on the whole. I don't know if it's his way of trying to flirt with her, but she says he's constantly trying to turn their messaging too sexual. She doesn't like it but a bit of flirting is harmless, so is she being a prude?
The latest convo gave me the ick for her. Messing & sending innocent photos. She sent one of her aged 10 in her above the knee 1970's school dress with white socks, with comments about how she needs to get a new hairstyle as she still has the same one at the age of 60 lol.
Cue him to say she still looks sexy at 60 but she should keep the white socks. He's 60 too & sounds like a dirty old man to me. Then straight into more attempts at turning it sexual. At 60 years old for gods sake. Bin him, or is she being a prude? My advice is to delete him just on the white socks alone, 🤮

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Yuck, especially the white socks thing. He sounds like a pervy letch and I'd be putting him right in the fucking bin.

I suspect it was a joke. Not a very funny one, but unless she suspects he’s a paedo, the I don’t think he really wants her to come over all baby Jane.

Bin him. Someone reconnected with me on FB. He only seems to comment suggesting we get together. Called me ‘Madam’ at one point.

Some men think the only reason to speak to a woman is sex. Yuck.

Definitely just after one thing. The sexual flirting would be a total turn off for me even without the awful comment about the socks.

I think she's odd to send him photos of herself as a child.

The key sentence for me is "she doesn't like it". So why do we need to put a label on it? If she doesn't like it, she should stop interacting or ask him to change his behaviour.

She doesn't want to sext? Why should she? It's got bugger all to do with prudishness ( although it might).

Either way if it's not her cup of tea then she shouldn't.

General flirting (if she's actually interested in him) is fine, but the white socks comment would give me the ick on a grand scale. Just no need for the whole 'School girls are sexy' thing. It's gross.

That's grim but also nothing wrong with her not wanting to sext - no need to call her a prude, that's just unnecessary

Sexual banter, innuendo and the like are fun if BOTH people are engaged with it.

If one person is trying to maintain a more balanced conversation and the other keeps trying to turn it sexual then yeah that is a massive turn off!

It reeks of immaturity at best and predatory at worst!

The idea of sexting leaves me cold, frankly. I don't think it's because I'm a prude, it just gives me the ick.

To me there's a huge difference between words that are said while in each others presence and each others body language, tone of voice and facial expression make it clear that you're both in tune, and words that are typed in a message without any of those cues. Yuck.

@Rosecoffeecup you misunderstand me. I wasn't calling her a prude. She's wondering if she's a prude.
I don't think she's a prude at all, it would put me right off; but then I'm out of touch & probably old fashioned having been with my dh for 40 years

Think it was just banter. But if she has the ick, then that's it.

That is gross, although there are still a surprising number of people who think school girl fantasy stuff is ok. It would be the end of it for me, as would the constant sexualization of conversation - it sounds like being around an unsophisticated teenage boy.

If she doesn't like it, she doesn't. No need to label herself.