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Proposed trip

4 replies

DisgruntledHusband · 12/02/2024 15:30

I am a 38 year old man, I have been married for decade and know my wife for thirteen years.

Ever since I have known her she has gone away for long weekends twice a year with her mother, aunt and cousin when the cousin returned to London on holiday. The cousin returned for good post covid and the weekends were reinstated.

I never balked at looking after my children alone, and happily booked the odd day off to accommodate these trips.

My wife has also gone away for three hen dos ranging from two nights to a week.

I went to the stag do of the husband of one of her friends and spent some time away last year when my grandfather was dying.

My brother is 40 and my mother is 65 and she wants to take us to New York for four days. My wife has gone apeshit.

When I point out the holidays she has had all she can say is this is different.

She feels we should all be invited and again when I point out her family jaunts that didn't include me or our kids and for that matter her sister-in-law and cousin's brother's wife she again says my mother's proposal is different.

I want other women's opinions.

OP posts:
takealettermsjones · 12/02/2024 15:36

Well, why is it different? What does she say? Can you think of any reason why it might feel different to her?

It doesn't sound unreasonable on the face of it but there's not much detail to go on.

budgiegirl · 12/02/2024 16:10

Based on what you've said,YANBU. Does she say how she thinks it's different? Is it perhaps somewhere she wants to go, and doesn't want you to go without her? Have her trips been abroad?

OurNev · 12/02/2024 16:41

I suppose going away with other women in a family is a bit different from a mother-in-law excluding her daughter-in-law and grandchildren from a family holiday???? Maybe that’s what’s bothering her.
Often logic doesn’t come into things

TruJay · 12/02/2024 16:50

OurNev · 12/02/2024 16:41

I suppose going away with other women in a family is a bit different from a mother-in-law excluding her daughter-in-law and grandchildren from a family holiday???? Maybe that’s what’s bothering her.
Often logic doesn’t come into things

But surely if that’s what she is thinking then on her trips, op’s MIL is excluding her son-in-law and grandchildren from a family trip?

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable OP, you’re only going on a trip alone like your wife has many times previously

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