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To raise complaint about neighbor to HV

50 replies

Tir3edAndTested · 12/02/2024 14:34

So we have a 15m old daughter, we bought an Ex-council house when LO was 4 weeks old. Our neighbours also have a baby, they also have (I think) a young XL bully. There's 5 people in this 2 bed house, not a huge problem. The lady and her partner/ teenage children regularly have loud arguments with banging and crashes in the middle of the night. There's huge piles of garbage in the front and back garbage and used nappies just loose on their front patio (one has been there for at least 3 weeks). There's dog poo everywhere. We have to walk past their front gate to get to ours, and it always STINKS of weed. The mother used to smoke it in the front with baby in the bassinet when it was young but now the smell is coming from open windows. The dog barks aggressively whenever you walk past and it NEVER, EVER leaves the property for walks and has near to no garden (maybe 4mx2m). I have also never seen them take the baby out of the house. I went to drop a christmas card around and there was so much litter and dirty nappies all over the floor and such a strong smell of weed. I invited her to come to baby group with me and for a few weeks she said she'd come and then backed out and now I've stopped asking. I don't want to fall out with them and I really don't want an innocent Dog put down but I feel both the dog and baby might be somewhat neglected. What would you do?
I've really tried hard to be a kind and loving neighbour but I'm fed up of the smell of poo and the litter is so gross, and the smell of weed is so strong coming into our garden.

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Floppyelf · 12/02/2024 14:36

Report, report and report. To the police for ASB, to social services for young kids exposed to drugs and drug parapanelia.

notknowledgeable · 12/02/2024 14:37

yes report

Comedycook · 12/02/2024 14:37

I'd report them to ss and environmental health

nomchonge1 · 12/02/2024 14:38

How would you feel if they found out it was you? If you would be at all worried for your own child's safety, then I would be cautious.

LittleGreenDragons · 12/02/2024 14:38

Environmental Health at your local council for the rubbish including nappies and dog poo.

Social Services for the baby.

Not sure for the dog since it doesn't leave the house but maybe with the other two getting involved it's life will improve.

Purplebiscuitwithsprinkles · 12/02/2024 14:39

Comedycook · 12/02/2024 14:37

I'd report them to ss and environmental health

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youcandanceifyouwanna · 12/02/2024 14:39

You need to report this. The baby is passively smoking weed.

Dotjones · 12/02/2024 14:39

Report them but be aware that they will almost certainly know it's you who reported them. It's a case of twist or stick, you could win but you could bust.

TomeTome · 12/02/2024 14:40

That photo identifies exactly who you are

TwattingDog · 12/02/2024 14:41

Report all that to social services (go via the NSPCC if you're worried about anonymity). Also go via our HV, and I'd also say contact the police about the dog. If the dog is a registered exempted dog, there's not a lot police can do, but it puts a shot across their bows. RSPCA won't require them to walk the dog or anything....

Also speak to environmental health about the mess - that's a huge rat risk. Take photos from an angle other than your window though, protects your identity if they see them in the future.

WaltzingWaters · 12/02/2024 14:44

Definitely report to SS and environmental health.
I’d also ask to get the photo removed- whilst it shows us how awful the neighbours place is, it’s very outing if your neighbours or anyone who knows their place were to see this.

PiperBoo · 12/02/2024 14:45

I'd remove the photo as they'll know it's you if they see it. But I'd 100% report them. You were brave buying next to someone like this!

femfemlicious · 12/02/2024 14:49

How is social services not already involved

sleepingbeau · 12/02/2024 14:50

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ZEWatson · 12/02/2024 14:51

PiperBoo · 12/02/2024 14:45

I'd remove the photo as they'll know it's you if they see it. But I'd 100% report them. You were brave buying next to someone like this!

Good idea. How do I do that?

Knackeredhamster · 12/02/2024 14:53

Is it owned or housing association or council?
I'd be reporting to landlords that's disgusting.

Crumpleton · 12/02/2024 14:54

There is absolutely no need in this day and age when pretty much most properties have refuge collected and taken away for them to have that much rubbish in a garden.

Definitely report to EH.

Lavender14 · 12/02/2024 14:54

Make an anonymous report to social services op. The mother is clearly struggling and needs support to help her get in control of things and the kids in the home deserve a safe clean space to live. The dog is a risk to them if it's not being looked after, trained and exercised properly and it sounds like she's too much on her plate to do that. So I'd refer that on to the dog warden if you have one for your council area. Unfortunately this is really only likely to change if support is put in place and she's under pressure to make the changes. They may already be involved but at least you know you've done all you can to flag a family needing help.

PiperBoo · 12/02/2024 14:54

There should be an edit button, or ask MN to do it for you.

Knackeredhamster · 12/02/2024 14:54

ZEWatson · 12/02/2024 14:51

Good idea. How do I do that?

You report your post by clicking on the dots to the right of it and you explain why

Funusername · 12/02/2024 14:56

Remove the photo. We get the idea. Protect your anonymity here at least!
Report to SS and environmental health, but other PP will have good advice on this.

Jamongranary · 12/02/2024 15:00

Social services will help , i'd report to them .

I had neighbour always keeping dogs inside (she had 9 in 2bed flat ) , i lived for over a year there and not once her dogs were out RSPCA didn't care at all . Made numerous reports . Nothing changed .

She had filthy gardens and environmental or landlords didn't care either , i had to move .

Haveyouanyjam · 12/02/2024 15:01

Does your HV come to you? As if so I would ask them to come out and tell them your concerns whilst they are there, so they can see for themselves as they then have a duty to report to social services. You can then say if the neighbours raise it with you that you had a routine visit from a professional and they reported it from what they saw.

Tir3edAndTested · 12/02/2024 15:01

PiperBoo · 12/02/2024 14:45

I'd remove the photo as they'll know it's you if they see it. But I'd 100% report them. You were brave buying next to someone like this!

I know, if we knew we probably wouldn't have. Well we didn't know it was like this when we viewed the house. We were in a small rental when I was pregnant and we were in the position to buy, we knew things were about to get bad with mortgages etc and this house seemed reasonable. The street isn't the nicest, you can tell they are council/ some ex council houses and a few questionable characters but the overall location is perfect and seemed just right at the time

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Laloca2000 · 12/02/2024 15:07

Yeah definitely take the photo down. Either the neighbour or any of her friends could see it and you could find yourself in deep shit with the neighbour. I'd definitely have a word with Social Services, particularly about the weed and lack of hygiene. Poor baby.