AIBU Exam annoyance

[IndependentExaminer]

I have some professional exams coming up. I have two on the same day in our nearest city.

I didn't want to tell anyone when they are so as not to feel any pressure but my husband would have hit the roof if I kept it secret from him so I told him. I deliberately booked them on a day he is in work (he works funny shifts).

My plan was to get the train early to take away the stress of finding somewhere to park, find a nice coffee shop near the venue and revise for exam 1, then go for lunch and revise for exam 2.

well my husband has booked the day off work so he can come with me. He didn't ask me if I wanted him. He's all pleased with himself for being so supportive but I just wanted to go by myself and get into the zone. He thinks he will test me and we can practice but I don't learn like that. It will just be a massive distraction. Plus he will have to hang around for over two hours per exam. He can go shopping (he loves shopping) but I could just do without it.

YABU - he's being supportive, don't be a bitch

YANBU - That would annoy me too!

Just thank him and tell him what you said here.

Ultimately it's lovely he's trying to be supportive, you need to do things on your own terms.

Both. He is being lovely and supportive, and it would annoy me too. You’re going to have to tell him what you’ve said here and find an alternative - maybe he can pick you up afterwards and you can go for a lovely meal or whatever?

It's not a nice thing to do unless it helps/supports the other person even though he has done it thinking he'll help. You need to tell him how you feel. It has to be about you that day. I stayed in a hotel for mine even though it was only half hour drive away as it meant I could study in peace and generally relax.

If I tell him I don't want him there we will end up arguing as he says I push him out and try to deal with everything by myself.

I started therapy last year and I was nervous so I didn't mention my first session until afterwards and we argued for a week because I hadn't told him before so he could be supportive. I told him that day just not before it.

That's not support, that's control.

There are YOUR exams though, it's not a joint venture so of course you want to deal with them by yourself. If he's selfish enough to argue about it then he sounds like a twat.

In that case he is controlling and not supportive. It's about him not you, how is that supportive??