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Dodosareextinct · 12/02/2024 08:26

Posting here for traffic really but I'm feeling so down and can't talk to anyone irl.
Currently 8 months pp and a SAHM to an 8mo and a 2yo (just turned 2) and most days I feel like I'm drowning. I feel so frumpy and hate the way I look but I have no motivation, will or even energy to do anything about it. I attend a parent and baby exercise class twice a week and walk the dog for an hour every day but the exercise class end up me running around after toddler for an hour or holding baby who refuses to be put down meaning I rarely get to take part in the actual exercises! There's no one else around to watch DDs as we don't live near family and all of the local nurseries and CMs are full for the next year!
My mind craves chocolate/convenience food even if the fridge is full of fruit/healthy food etc.
DH is away for work Mon-Fri and home for 3 nights over the weekend but then weekends are full of family stuff so there's no time to do anything then.
I've tried meal planning, food prep etc but it gets to the meals and I don't want to eat them. I just feel so stuck in a rut. I know my husband doesn't find me attractive anymore because we haven't DTD since before 8mo DD was born and that's affecting my confidence.
I feel so guilty for feeling like I do rather than just enjoying my two beautiful children.
Not really sure what I'm expecting responses to say tbh because there's not a lot I can do! Just needed somewhere to moan.

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JofraArchersFastestBall · 12/02/2024 08:36

Looking after a baby and a toddler is one of the hardest things I've ever done.

You will get through this, and things will get easier - but you will have to give yourself some time and cut yourself a lot more slack!

Mermaidsarereal · 12/02/2024 08:42

Cut yourself some slack OP! It sounds as though you have your hands full right now and it sounds as though you're already doing plenty of exercise walking the dog and running around after your babies! If you crave chocolate/convenient food, maybe get yourself some healthy ready meals (slimming world meals are my go to when I really can't be bothered cooking) and get some Skinny Whip/Bliss bars for when you fancy chocolate. There's loads of lower calorie options out there for crisps and chocolate.

Let your partner know how you are feeling too, if you want to get your love life back on track he needs to know that you are feeling this way.

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