My 84 Dad died yesterday help

[Flyhigher]

My heart is breaking.
He's 84. But I'm breaking. Help. Help. How do you cope?

OP the words which made the most sense to me were C.S.Lewis
''No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear''
My heart goes out to you, one day the pain will not be this great, I promise

You just exist through this part, it's raw & awful but it doesn't last forever. My Dad died at this time of year, I found small glimmers of hope at seeing the spring flowers come through, they were a sign that life carries on but I didn't find it a harsh reminder more a gentle one.

Try to remember to eat

@Kendodd You cannot possibly tell that from the OP.

I’m very sorry for your loss OP.

I'm sorry, keep his memory alive by remembering the good times you shared. He's still in your heart.

When my dad died it was the exhaustion that got me. Allow yourself time to sleep and heal. Get signed off work if you need to. I was signed off for a month, probably not enough really. You will survive this. The sadness will awkward be there but the intensity will decrease as time goes on. Are you there friends and family to talk to about the good times and happy memories?

I am sorry for your loss too. Losing a parent is hard. I lost mine young (I was 18, then 29) and found it very difficult to navigate.

I’m 38 now and I can say that peace with your new life does come eventually.

All you can do right now is take every day as it comes. Try and “accept” the pain and don’t run from it. Cry when you need to, even if that’s all the time. Think about him. Let yourself be sad, as difficult as that is right now. If you need to stay in bed and do nothing, do it.

Such very wise advice. Grief is normal and processing it is hard. It’s like a stormy sea, the waves are huge and relentless, gradually they get smaller and less frequent.

I’m so sorry for your loss @Flyhigher. It truly does get easier with time. 💐

I’m so sorry for your loss OP, this must be so difficult for you. I know it’s a cliche, but time really is a great healer and things will get better. Right now you’re in shock, and the next 24 hours are just about looking after yourself.

There’s a lot to do when someone dies - paperwork, organising the funeral, notifying people, clearing possessions…
Just put one foot in front of the other and get through each task. Make lists, enlist others to help, delegate where you can. I found the whole process of dealing with all of this quite cathartic. I was occupied, and didn’t have time to think too much whilst it was still really raw.

In a few weeks, when the funeral’s over and everything has quietened down, you may need more support - friends to rally around, people to talk to. I found that was when I really started to grieve.

So sorry for your loss

@Kendodd you were right. Thanks. Yes probably.
I don't think I'll feel the same about my mum.