to be cross because my DH family keep chucking money at my DS...

[annoyedonetwo]

I have changed my name 4 this.

My DHs family keep giving my DS money, sometimes as much as £10 a week. I am of the belief that children should be taught the value of money and the value of earning it. Like doing jobs etc around the house etc.

In no way does my DS do without in any area, but I am trying to motivate him to see money as something that is hard to come by and needs to be respected etc. However when I say, you will have to save up for such and such, thinking that it will take at least a couple of months, sometimes he has the money in a couple of weeks because of them flinging money at him.

AIBU

YANBU

Charge him rent

Seriously though, I think it's up to you to say if he can spend it or has to save it. I'm all for children learning to save and spending their money how they like, but a tenner a week is a lot unless he's a teenager.

How old is your son?

dont buy him toys or gadgets or any non-essentials then, he'll still learn 2 save for things he really wants.

A friend of my mum's had a very close friend who never ever bought her kids anything for birthdays or Christmas. My mum's friend was fine about it and never mentioned it. When her kids turned 17 the friend gave them savings accounts books which she had been putting a tenners into instead of a gift a couple of times a year. They had enough to buy themselves a good few driving lessons. Maybe you could suggest something similar to your DH's family?

do your in laws know you find this difficult, and that you are trying to teach value of money etc. are they doting (but maybe misguided GP's) or are they directly going in opposition to you

would a compromise work
books instead of money
money put in ISA or savings account