has anyone ever dealt with a self centred, attention seeking sister? i am due next month with my second LO (first is 2), she is 6 weeks pregnant and has never had an interested in my pregnancies at all.
i suffered with HG for 7 months and she was no where to be seen for support or comfort, but now she is pregnant she expects the world to be given to her & acts like i don’t understand pregnancy/child birth/babies.
she has always been the same, very jealous and envious of everything i have done in my life and judged every single thing i have done especially during my pregnancies. hated how i did everything even during horrible circumstances when i have tried my best (my gender reveal was so basic due to me literally being bed bound during my hg days, all she could say is how she would do everything differently and have a cake reveal, more people and she was disappointed it was another baby boy?!) things like that, no congratulations or support at all.
but now she is pregnant, when we speak or see each other she makes every single thing about her. it’s like she forgets i am having another baby next month and i can’t be excited about it, even if im not talking to her about it directly, she will butt into the conversation and change it about her pregnancy? which i have no idea how she can even do since she is only 5/6 weeks along and i am 34 weeks, but she finds a way.
she came around a few days ago and i couldn’t talk to her one single bit since she would either ignore me or completely change the conversation, i had to leave to go into the bathroom to cry because i was getting genuinely frustrated. she never has asked about my experiences with certain things, for advice or for ANYTHING.
which is ok for some people but it is draining for me, i dread every time she messages me or talks to me because i feel like a brick wall.
not to mention how she has no idea about pregnancy and thinks she is peeing so much because of how big the baby is (an apple seed) and how she is struggling to get up/out of bed due to her abs separating (at 5/6 weeks pregnant, no idea how this is possible… LOL)
and yes i do try to correct her, but when i do she makes it out like i am making everything about me and how everyone deals with pregnancy different. if i mention my baby boy, she then again makes it out like i am making her pregnancy about her.
i was telling her about me ordering some clothes since none of mine fit me anymore, she didn’t even let me finish before she mentioned what she had bought for herself… maternity underwear that were hanging off her since they were for women with bumps further along pregnancy.
for context, she is the oldest sibling and i am the youngest. just wondering is anyone else has experienced anything similar and what should i do?! mention it and her cause an argument or ignore it and let it annoy me for hours.
sorry for the long post! she has done a lot more aswell.. god.