DS searching dirty stuff on YouTube

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I checked DS tablet this evening as always he has searched for explicit things. (No bra and no underwear girls) into YouTube 3 times.

me and DH have asked him why he is saying he doesn’t know. Tablet has been taken away from him.

Where do we go from here? Does it need punishment?

I didn't think there was anything that explicit on you tube. How old is he?

How old is he?

Any advice is meaningless without knowing his age. But punishment for sexual curiosity is never appropriate and always damaging.

Completely agree with PP that punishment here is not the answer. His age is needed to know a suitable response but education is important and not shaming him. It's perfectly normal to be curious

Sorry he is 7 nothing came up hence why he carried on searching.

Why is your seven year old allowed unsupervised access to YouTube?

You need to have a gentle conversation with him.
Don't shame him or punish him.

Right. Your 7 year old has searched for no underwear girls?

Has he indeed.

If this is genuine you have some very serious problems on your hands.

So that's quite young. Asking why is quite a hard question for young children to answer. You might get more out of him if you ask him what it was that he wanted to know about, or if someone else has talked to him about this particular search topic. He may have been told or shown inappropriate things by another child. Or he may just be curious about the differences between boys and girls. Does he have access to age appropriate books about bodies and development?

Wow he’s very young to have be searching that! You need to ask him why he’s searching for that.

"As always"

How much is this happening? I'd be involving some sort of professional, would you consider childline or similar? I think this obviously needs more help than you can give if it's recurring.

At 7?.

He shouldn't be punished, but I think that is very young to be trying to watch porn.

I'd be very concerned about where this has come from.

Right. So actually you should be punishing whoever let him have unsupervised access to the internet at 7.

Why ON EARTH is he allowed unsupervised on an iPad ?

You need to up your parenting game . Mum AND dad .

There's nothing wrong with your kid, but plenty with you:

1. sexual curiosity should never be punished. How bloody harmful. You need to think about your position on this.
2. why on god's green earth is your son on YouTube without your supervision?
3. why are you asking him questions he won't really be able to answer and jumping straight to punishments?

You need to GENTLY over half term talk to him a number of times about bodies and sex. Find out if he just wants to know what boobs look like, or if somehow he has sadly seen porn. FFS don't shame him in either instance.

How he feels about himself and if he can trust you as a source for discussing confusing feelings going forwards (potentially the rest of his life) is on a knife edge here. Do not underestimate how critical your approach to this situation is.

Agree from the phrasing it sounds like curiosity.
@EsmeSusanOgg he's not 'trying to watch porn'... what a leap.
But he shouldn't be allowed unsupervised access to youtube searches.
He needs you to sit him down, gently explain you can see his searches. Explain/remind factually about boys and girls bodies and provide an appropriate book.
And explain in an age appropriate way about online safety too.

Seven is very young. I'd want to know where he got those ideas from.