Anyone else feel sorry for themselves and get angry about it

[JKDcot]

I am really feeling down about things and frustrated with myself. I have a few long standing grudges about myself. Stupid s&&t like I have awful teeth, stupidly thin hair so have to wear extensions or I look bald just stuff that sounds so vain. But all I see is other people who have perfect teeth and hair.

I know how lucky I am to have my health and there is so much worse that people are so brave and real with. But these things upset me daily and I just cannot break the negative loop of seeing an ugly me in the mirror.

any advice? Anyone else?

I think it's hard to really appreciate something until it's challenged. My health has been bad recently and I did a post on Fb about the possibility of me dying. I feel a bit silly about it but tbh I am and was scared. I actually don't feel too bad about dying as I've considered what would happen if I did before (partly depression, anxiety and general ageing with kids). I realised I am actually more worried that other people think I'm more worried than I am because I was open about death. It's often about what we think others see that causes us angst. You are worrying/thinking more about your image, later on in life it might be how you acted at a time...it's our way of self reflecting and is actually important for self growth. It sounds like you feel silly for having these worries, some might agree, however if you break it down you are saying you don't feel acceptable or like everyone else. You don't want to stand out. I'd have a think on that and reflect a bit about why that's important to you and whether it's something you can shift focus on or work on.

Sorry for the ramble!

Nope. There are things I wish were different about myself ( I'm overweight, teeth could be better) but I'm healthy in other ways.

I work with children with various awful diseases/ impairments so it helps me never take that for granted and be grateful for what I have. It also makes me realise how little control over our health we have. I do my best to eat well, exercise and stay healthy, but there are no guarantees

I feel sorry for myself and get angry with myself for doing that, because I'm super lucky, have none of the problems that beset many of these boards, and basically a life most people would yearn for. But I feel sorry for myself because ... all types of rubbish, really. I wish I could spend all day in a serene mood of gratitude and appreciation but while that happens mostly, I do also get sorry for myself cos I'm getting old/wish I'd been a better mother/partner, the roof needs redoing, the ponds leaking blah blah. I suspect it's part of being human tbh