Husband is charming. He is more affectionate than wife. He has more personality than wife and is confident. He speaks to absolutely everyone.
Wife is more shy and reserved.
Wife gets fed up of husband. Husband doesn't help around the house - though he works long hours. He works hard and brings in good money. Husband gambles though doesn't leave the family with nothing money. He has had bad experiences of gambling before however and has been in huge amounts of debt because of this.
Wife does everything in the home. She doesn't ask for help as she knows it's pointless. She does all the childcare and frequently looks after her step children for days on end.
Husband constantly moans. He's always stressed. Always talking about himself. Always. Wife feels she doesn't matter. Equally she feels she has nothing to say as all she does is look after everyone else.
Husband can give wife silent treatment for the smallest of things. Wife hates it. She tries hard to avoid this and does the same for the dc too. She works hard to make sure no one annoys him.
Husband notices wife becomes distant. He worked away recently and accuses wife of cheating. Wife wasn't cheating. Husband also tells wife he is messaging someone to else however immediately takes it back and says he isn't. Regardless, wife leaves.
Husband begs wife to come back. He promises wife he will change for the better. Wife agrees. She goes back and things are good for 2/3 weeks.
However husband changes. He goes back to being worse than he was before. Gambling more. Not really speaking to wife much at all. Wife is still expecting the promised change from the husband so she asks him to do some minor things to help round the house - he doesn't do it. She asks him to pick up some nappy's for the toddler as he is unwell - he doesn't do it.
Wife's mental health then starts to deteriorate. Wife becomes worried as she feels so low that she could potentially do something very final. She just wants to escape her life.
Wife calls husband while he's at work. She is crying. She tells husband about the thoughts she's having in her head. Husband isn't impressed. He's annoyed wife called him at work (he is self employed and can work his own hours). He tells her he can't be arsed with it.
Wife leaves again.
After a few days, husband tells wife he is having a mental breakdown himself. He apologises to wife for his behaviour. He says he will change.
He says he didn't know how to deal with his wife's suicidal thoughts because his own dad committed suicide and he didn't know how to cope.
Wife then starts looking after husband even though she is suffering herself. Everything becomes about husband however she refuses to go back.
Husband goes to therapy - finally while still begging wife to come back.
Wife asks for space. Husband continues to beg wife to come back. If she refused, husband gets angry with wife and calls her cold and nasty.
Husband then begins to think wife is with someone else. She isn't. Wife then has to constantly prove she has no one else while the husband is convinced she has.
Husband continues to either beg wife to come back or accuse her of having someone else.
This is over a period of 6 weeks from wife leaving for good up until this point.
It then emerges that husband has been messaging other woman. Husband has also started a new 'friendship' with another woman also. He claims this is nothing more than a friendship and she is helping him through this. He goes round to her house etc.
The 'friend' messages the wife to say they have been sleeping together while husband insists they haven't. The friend is then seen as crazy with bipolar according to husband.
The story continues but I'm interested to know if these points shows a narcissist.