When your adult children move back home

[Fraudornot]

Would love to know what people do. Do you expect them to pay into the household if working or do you pay for them to help them save for house etc. We are not sure what to do as we don’t need the money but equally I think resentment builds up if they are earning without contributing. What is reasonable in your opinion?

My DD gives me £400 per month. She also saves a good proportion of her wages and spends the remainder, mainly on books and driving lessons. I'm not in a position to put momey by for her and neither can I afford to subsidise her as a single parent on a low income; much as I would love to. Luckily she thinks £400 is a steal compared to uni accomodation fees. Eventually she hopes to have enough for a deposit on a flat but we've not put a time line on that and I'm happy for her to take the time she needs.

My DD is home and working in hospitality. She buys bits and pieces like supplies and takeaways from time to time but not much. She's applying for more serious jobs and if she starts to earn a proper wage I will review it. But I'd rather enable her to save. To be fair she doesn't cost me much extra. I have to heat her room as it's basement and would get damp if I didn't and she mostly fixes her own food/brings it home from work.

My 21 year old is moving back home temporarily as she is in desperate need of a fresh start. She has conditions, she is currently on UC so we are charging £80 a month rent to cover the extra food bills. However, she has to save at least 10% of any money received, going up to 25% once she is back in work. Her rent charge will also be 25% when she is back in work, but we will be saving a lot of that charge on her behalf, so when she has her own place we can help her. She also has rules with helping with chores, walking the dog and no boyfriends staying over as she has younger siblings in the house. We want to give her a helping hand to get back on her feet but cant afford to pay for all extras. When we discussed rent agreements, she suggested the amounts. She also requested help with money management. I think these are reasonable arrangements but I would also like other opinions on what they would do.