Conflicted about new job

[Halfwaytheree]

I’ve been in my current role for 6 months. I was internally promoted from a different team at the time, and I think coming in everyone in the new team expected me to be shit. I’ve proven myself more than capable and had lots of extra responsibilities added on, but little recognition if that makes sense. Like my work gets compliments at a very senior level but my direct manager ignores that & gives me zero support or feedback or anything so I feel like it’s all for nothing. He then takes my ideas and uses them himself or with his other team, getting them lots of credit and giving me none. I genuinely like the work, I just can’t continue with my current manager without feeling undermined and disrespected

Anyway I’ve got an interview coming up for an internal role in a different area as another promotion and aibu to feel conflicted? Firstly as I’ve only been in current role 6 months, a lot of people will have a lot to say about me going for promotion again. Secondly I just know that even though I’ve done a good job, I’ll get torn apart by my current team eg they’ll probably badmouth me or blame me for things that existed before I joined the team but have had no support in dealing with. I think my current manager will posture and make me a scapegoat if that makes sense? So I suppose I’m worried about my reputation if I go for the promotion

Go for it! If you think the promotion leads to a role that is right for you and it gets you out of the team that’s dragging you down, then it sounds like it’s timed perfectly to rescue you.

Good luck!

You mean after you leave the team you will get blame for all the shit?

That happens in loads of places. Someone leaves, they get blamed for the shit. You can’t let that hold you back.

I won’t care about what happens when I leave. It happens every where when they’re unhappy you’re leaving, they’ll likely speak about you behind your back. You knew you were good and you’ll do your best in the new role and that’s all that matters.

Definitely get out of there it sounds toxic. You have proved yourself at senior level. Hopefully this team will be a less hostile environment

Thanks! Can’t help but feel a bit anxious - but this new job seems good and I don’t want to pass it up

Feel anxious and go for it anyway! You absolutely must not allow these people to hold you back. They're really not that important.

No offence but you think too much about the opinions of others.

Who cares what people think, you do you.

You probably took over my old team. I hated them, they hated me. They bullied me and destroyed my confidence. They told everyone that I was useless and incompetent. I left there six months ago on promotion, and have just been promoted again. I'm not that incompetent, apparently

Some environments are so nasty and hateful that it's not worth trying to change them. Just learn from the experience and move on.

yeah you’re all definitely right, I’m not sure why I feel so tense. Everyone else at work looks out for themselves. I guess maybe deep down I want that vindication that I’ve done a good job from my manager, but I’ll probably never get that

A lot of workplaces (mine included) won't let you move up/across to a new role until you've been in your current one for at least a year.

Could you look into that first?

Last thing you want to do is try for the new role - find out you're blocked on a technicality - then be stuck where you are with an already difficult manager, who now knows you're actively wanting out.

What if you don't get the new role? Will your current manager get to hear about it and make life even more difficult? Or does it not matter because he does not support you anyway.

If the worst thing is you get turned down for the new role, then you have nothing to lose to go for it and everything to gain.