To worry about a genetic problem

[Lionssmith]

Sadly experienced MC at 40 days of being pregnant, which was somewhere between five and six weeks. I don’t know whether this is classed as a chemical or a miscarriage.

I have been reading (probably too much) and I am worried about either myself or husband carrying a genetic problem like a translocation, which would increase the risk of future miscarriage. There’s no history of it in my family that we know of but I do have a couple of cousins with chromosomal microdeletions which has resulted in them having slight learning disabilites. I am also neurodivergent so I could theoretically have that microdeletion too. That said, none of my female relatives have ever experienced loss and have all had quite healthy pregnancies resulting in lots of children.

We are under 30, healthy as far as we know, take vitamins and exercise. I think I know I do, but should I step away from google and stop diagnosing myself with issues on the internet? Understandably just very anxious that it’s going to happen again.

I had 3 MC before having DC
1 at about the same time as you
1 at 8 weeks and 1 at 12 weeks

Then I had DC, perfectly fine pregnancy and no issue.

I think its just less spoken about than it should be especially early MC. Once I had mine friends and family started to tell me about theirs. Even my grandmother told me of her fertility issues 65+ years ago.

Its also for some a very very sad loss and for others just something that happened. There is no right way to feel.

But I wouldn't worry or panic yet, it's extremely common and a lot of women have at least 1 MC, especially a very early one before going on to become pregnant

Good luck with your journey.

I have a balanced translocation of chromosomes which results in recurrent miscarriages. My mum had 3 children and 8 miscarriages. I inherited the same translocation. I had PGD (pre genetic diagnosis) IVF to have my child. I couldn't cope with recurrent miscarriages so I did my research and came across PGD IVF. You have to be referred by a genetic counsellor, if diagnosed, and you decide to choose the IVF. You can be eligible for 3 rounds of funded PGD IVF on the NHS depending on circumstances.