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DB has been threatened with physical violence at work

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MerlinsHairyBeard · 09/02/2024 18:33

Posting for traffic. A colleague has threatened to 'get' my DB after work. Absolutely zero provocation. DB is the most harmless person you'd ever meet! This man has made similar threats and horrible comments to other staff as well, some of which has been reported to the managers - but nothing has been done. My DB feels unsafe and stressed working there, but what can be done to get this man out if just reporting it makes no difference? What are the next steps? Would the police even take it seriously as it's just DB's word against this man's? There's no HR department and only the head director left to escalate to. Any advice please?! DB deserves to be able go to work without threats of violence and abuse.

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Hatty65 · 09/02/2024 18:45

Is he concerned about this? He could ask his GP for a sicknote and email manager to explain that the stress of being threatened means he does not feel safe in work. Ask them to investigate. I would absolutely tell manager I was prepared to make it a police matter.

IncognitoUsername · 09/02/2024 18:51

Any decent company would have this man out straight away. I would suggest DB informs Director and starts to look for a new job.

Janelle7 · 09/02/2024 18:53

Agree with the advice above. Its not on. Your poor DB shouldn’t have to work alongside this

mcmen05 · 09/02/2024 18:56

My husband has similar and manager is able to sort.
It's terrible to have to ho to work like this.
They also threaten they will come after his family if he snitches
We need the money
He likes the work but his team are so hateful he is at least 20 years older than them and they totally disrespect him he his team lead and they try to make him fail my not cooperating.

redalex261 · 09/02/2024 18:58

How long have your brother and the other man worked for this company? Is it a small business with only a handful of workers? Even in these circumstances your brother should be able to speak to the owner/manager and explain fully what has happened and ask him to address it properly, he is entitled to a safe working environment with no bullying. There also must be some kind of background, no one is randomly threatening a colleague out of the blue so even if there has not been direct “provocation” there must be some history leading up to to this. The business has a duty of care to staff, and it is in the company interest to get it sorted as the atmosphere can really become toxic for everyone if there is tension between staff members.

He needs to speak to boss pronto - if things are not dealt with and he feels forced to leave because if bullying technically he has a case if he has been employed over two years. This can be difficult to pursue.

redalex261 · 09/02/2024 19:03

Meant to say, if this has happened with others then the business is on a a shoogly peg if they ignore repeated complaints about the same individual. Anyone leaving and raising a formal case could call on previous instances as corroboration if s pattern if behaviour and there has been failure to deal with it.

Createausername1970 · 09/02/2024 19:38

My suggestion would be for DB to report it to the manager and say if nothing is done, then he will report it to the police.

I would log the threat on-line anyway. This person might be known to the police already, so bits of background info are helpful. This is what I was told when I logged a threat made to my son. I actually got a call from an officer the following day to say the other lad was known to them. "it was a very thick file" was the words he used. And although he didn't say it in so many words, the implication was that they were compiling a case against this other lad. About 8 months later the other lad got sent to prison for something else, but I think what happened to my son helped to identify a pattern.

MerlinsHairyBeard · 09/02/2024 20:21

It's so stressful. DB has worked there longer as have most of the others so I'd like to think the bosses will see sense and give this bloke the push. They really don't like confrontation though so I'm not convinced they'll do anything beyond 'have a word'. It's so worrying. Thanks for all the thoughts and advice so far.

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