Talking about previous partners

[Isthisnormal24]

I don't know how to word this. A few (lot of) drinks and watching TV we were reminiscing. We were talking about our 'first love' and every record reminded us of something.

DH a bit more pissed than me goes into detail about his first time when he went to 'third base'. I can't even say it on here or would look like a troll.
Needless to say he had great joy in relaying the tale of his 15 year old self and it just made me feel a bit sick.

We all have a past and I don't care what happened before me. But to be so explicit talking about visuals and descriptions, I told him it was disgusting and out of order.
He stormed off to bed

🙄

you’re both drunk. Talk like adults in the morning.

DH and I met when we were fairly young so no previous serious partners but one of the things that stood out for me in a good way was the way he spoke of his family and what little we have shared of our past

the way I would see what your partner said is would he speak of you like that one day?

I’m beginning to wonder if there’s ever a good reason to talk about our relationship/ sexual past. It shouldn’t matter but it seems often does. There was a similar post this week.

Try to “bleach “ the image from your mind and never talk about it again. I’m actually cringing at the thought of a partner giving me a blow by blow account of a past session 🤢

As usual on MN, first reply cracks it

I dont see the point in talking about past loves in any detail really. Where's the line?

Just bear in mind it made you feel irked, and avoid the topic fully in future. Even if drunk, just don't bring it up, and if he does just say "Id rather not hear about that, thanks!' I would probably find it funny though tbh.

I just need to forget about it. It came about when a particular song was on and he said it reminded him of this 'episode'. It just made me feel a bit sick with him going into detail.
We were both drunk and no doubt he won't remember unless I remind him, which I won't.
He's never spoken like this before in ten years together and I doubt he will again.

As advised I will shut it down if there's any hint of this type of conversation in the future. Thanks everyone.