I know I am

[user3572]

This post is going to make me sound terrible but AIBU to hate it/find it so boring when friends get married?

I'm always very pleased/excited for them when they get engaged but then the wedding planning starts and it becomes all they can talk about. Then the inevitable expensive hen dos etc start.

Everyone always starts out saying they're going to have a simple wedding and then it just seems to snowball into a big event that requires them to focus on nothing else for the foreseeable. I absolutely want to share their excitement of planning but there always seems to come a point where it just crosses the line into too much and then I dread hanging out with them for a period of time.

I've never got married so perhaps I just don't understand what it can be like to plan a wedding and maybe I would find myself behaving in a similar way.

Is it just me being a bit of a misery or do others find that weddings take over their friends for a good 12-18 months?

I think you have the wrong friendship groups if they are all like it but YANBU that wedding talk is very dull.

You know you aren’t surely?

Although you need new friends if they really carry on like that, I don’t know anyone that does.

It's interesting that you both think I'm not being unreasonable.

I'm in my late thirties now and this seems to have been the case for the majority of friends that I've known get married - there have been a couple of exceptions - which made me wonder if their behaviour that was normal and me that wasn't.

You're not being unreasonable. People need to have a bit of self-awareness and realise they can't monopolise conversations for the best part of 2 years because they're getting married.

I made a real effort not to harp on about the boring intricacies of planning my wedding because, to be honest, even I found it dull and uninteresting!