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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Normally when someone posts here, they have rough idea about whether they are or not, but I've genuinely not a clue....

33 replies

lissielouwithbunnyears · 22/03/2008 07:58

I have a group of friends that Ive known most of my life. 1 of them iveknown since i was 2. he gave me away when dh & i married, i was best bird at his wedding and his dw is expecting their 1st baby. 2 of them are married (1 i have known since the 1st day of primary school, the other since year 8) she was my maid of honour, and i was hers. and 1 ive known since year7, he now lives with his girlf but we dated on and off for about 4y. when we split up we worked v hard not to let it affect our other friends, and we are both v proud of the fact that it didnt. we have stayed v good friends, and tb h now i dont see him as "S, my ex", he is "S, my friend".

dh goes out every weekend with his mates, i moan about it, but dont stop him. we had talked bout going out together tonight, but he went out with his mates last night and we had discused just staying in with a bottle of wine instead. last night, after dh got in i had a text from S, he and the lad ive known since i was 2 are going out in the town i live in tonight for a few beers and they wanted to now if i could come too. i really want to go, but dh doesnt like them. particularly S, so he doesnt want to go.

i make the effort with his friends, and have never cheated on him. i understand why he has trouble with S, but last night he was ranting saying i was taking the piss, and if he went out with an ex i'd go mad (not true, i trust him ffs)dh has sulkily said that he will look after ds and i can go, but i know that if i do then he will sulk all weekend, but i hardly ever get to see my friends, AIBU?

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lollipopmother · 22/03/2008 17:34

Haha busted Lissie!

lissielouwithbunnyears · 22/03/2008 17:35

i know, he always seems to look at mn when ive been ranting about him!

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lollipopmother · 22/03/2008 17:49

He has undoubtedly sussed that you get pissed at him and then come on here and vent! It's a bit like him reading your diary don't you think!!

lissielouwithbunnyears · 22/03/2008 17:53

its exactly like that! or eavesdropping a conversation. i get really cross about it tbh, so we end up arguing about that....

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nappyaddict · 22/03/2008 17:55

YANBU - it's not like it's just you and him is it!!

3NAB · 22/03/2008 17:58

Only read the OP

Go out and have a good time.

A husband really ought to be able to trust his wife and FWIW I think it is his problem, not yours.

Have a good time

lissielouwithbunnyears · 22/03/2008 17:58

god no! wouldnt go if it was, out of respect for dh. but this is totally different imo

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OracleInaCoracle · 25/03/2008 17:54

well, went out. had a fab time! drank lots of beer, ended up being 3 of the old "gang" but fecking taxi was 45 mins late. so i have lost my voice again, but going out on saturday too

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