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To feel this way so soon after a break up?

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normalorbo · 08/02/2024 12:36

My ex boyfriend broke up with me Sunday night, short term relationship of only 6 months. He was a classic avoidant which really triggered my anxiety. He said I am 'too much' but he would like to chat and check in with me once in a while. I declined this offer saying I don't think this is healthy. I agreed with him he was making the correct choice, however, I did text him asking questions and we had a phone-call Monday night where he heard me crying. I haven't contacted him since.

I spent the full day Monday and Tuesday sick to my stomach, crying, unable to get out of bed. This morning I woke up to a text from him, 'hey I hope you're feeling a bit better'. I blocked him.

I honestly now feel so elated. It is so nice to not be constantly checking my phone, waiting for him to text me, it is so nice to not have a knot in my stomach for the first time in 6 months. I feel like I can concentrate on me again, and my family, my friends, my career. I've started to think about the bad things about him and no longer feel I'm missing out.

What a change from yesterday where I literally felt like my heart was broken. I honestly now feel on a cloud today and have no interest in speaking to him ever again.

Is this normal? I have never had a break up that within two days I'm normal. They usually take a while for me to heal. Will this hit me again when I least expect it?

OP posts:
SmileyClare · 08/02/2024 21:07

Whatever you do, don’t be tempted to get back with him now. You’ll be insecure that he’ll end things if you dont “behave” how he wants you to- and anxious all the time that you’re being too much/ too needy; second guessing yourself.

Dont fuel his ego trip by engaging in messages after it’s over.

MikeRafone · 08/02/2024 21:12

He wants you to soothe him and make him feel better

erh no, he can take a running jump, he is playing the game

dont let him play you

newyearnewknees · 08/02/2024 21:16

normalorbo · 08/02/2024 17:33

He text and said he is worried about me as I was so upset the other night (I was) and wanted to check I was okay. I feel so guilty, I don't want him worrying but I know as soon as I message him I will be waiting on a response.

Tell him he is being too much and then block him on every format :)

SmileyClare · 08/02/2024 21:36

newyearnewknees · 08/02/2024 21:16

Tell him he is being too much and then block him on every format :)

Touché 😂

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