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TheLimeKoala · 08/02/2024 01:28

I need help. Me and my partner don’t live together anymore due to having a baby and 4 days postpartum he was arguing with me calling names again not helping or supporting me. we have been together 5 years but I really do not know if I still want to be with him I love him but I don’t think we can ever repair our relationship as it has never been good (except from the honeymoon phase) I’ve tried to break up a few times but he messaged a day or 2 later as if nothing happened and I always give in.

we smoked weed together everyday until I found out I was pregnant I stopped straight away. My partner promised to stop but never has he did cut down a lot but now we are living apart I have no clue how much he smokes. He said to me the other day he had been at his friends and his girlfriend let’s him smoke bongs out the window with baby in the other room and I would never let him do that 🤢like I don’t know if he was trying to ask my permission but he’s right I don’t want him dealing with baby when stoned😡

It’s sound really mean but I just see him as really stupid I’m constantly explaining everything to him he will ask me something then when I answer he really cheekily says “yeah I know” it pisses me off.
he constantly calls me names if we have an argument he hates my family the don’t like him either and even on days I don’t see him he thinks I should run everything I’m doing past him if it involves them. For example I left my pram bag at my aunts I called her to ask her if she could drop it off as we were going out, after the call he’s questioning me about when I was with her what was I doing and you can tell he’s annoyed. it’s the same every-time even if I let him know beforehand. Should I have to check with him every-time I do something with our daughter?

he moans constant because I don’t hug and kiss him only have sex sometimes but to be honest I really don’t feel like hugging and kissing him😣

I’m I being unreasonable thinking like this should I give it one last shot for the sake of our daughter?
there is more but I know nobody will read it all if it’s too long so if you need more to help I can provide

OP posts:
WhatWouldHopperDo · 08/02/2024 01:34

A relationship shouldn’t be this hard. He isn’t showing any care for you or your baby.

You deserve so much more. Do you live alone? Can you change the locks?

MariaLuna · 08/02/2024 01:39

He's selfish.

Bin him off and get him to pay child maintenance.

He won't change.

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TheLimeKoala · 08/02/2024 01:44

Yeah I live alone, family live close by though and yeah I can change locks. I just worry as-well though on days he would have her himself would he be able to handle it, is he going to be smoking around her. Like he’s stayed a few times and watched her while I get an extra hour or 2 in bed( which he doesn’t understand why he has to wake up with her on the rare occasion he stays!!) or do things around house I always need to tell him she needs a bottle or bum changed. Like I asked if he changed her one morning they got up 2 hrs before me and he said no I checked and she only peed (she’s been in nappy all night!) I don’t know how I’d cope with him having her himself.

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ilovesooty · 08/02/2024 01:59

For the sake of your daughter?

Get rid of him and make sure you get him to pay maintenance.

KreedKafer · 08/02/2024 08:48

Your daughter is better off without this absolute scumbag.

KreedKafer · 08/02/2024 08:50

TheLimeKoala · 08/02/2024 01:44

Yeah I live alone, family live close by though and yeah I can change locks. I just worry as-well though on days he would have her himself would he be able to handle it, is he going to be smoking around her. Like he’s stayed a few times and watched her while I get an extra hour or 2 in bed( which he doesn’t understand why he has to wake up with her on the rare occasion he stays!!) or do things around house I always need to tell him she needs a bottle or bum changed. Like I asked if he changed her one morning they got up 2 hrs before me and he said no I checked and she only peed (she’s been in nappy all night!) I don’t know how I’d cope with him having her himself.

I doubt he will actually want to have her himself, tbh.

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