To say "finish in the bathroom by 11"?

[HairTornOutNow]

My bedroom is next to the bathroom, separated by a thin wall. When my teenage kids crash around it at night, it stops me sleeping. I've asked them to finish their ablutions by 11 and get in their rooms. Obviously if they quietly need to use the loo later, that's fine. But I want their lengthy evening routines done by 11. They are acting like it's a ridiculous request, and one is pretty much refusing. AIBU?

DS dropped the late night showers and cooking and having television on until midnight, (room next to mine every low is annoying) then one day I cracked and looked at the most basic room only for rent in our area. It was £800 I printed them out and showed them to him. Silence …So I pointed out that effectively we were three adults in a house share and that they were the new rules like ‘em or lump ‘em. He chose to like.😂

Then, then …………I worked out that out of the £200 he contributes, £120 goes back in from us for. He is in fairness on an apprenticeship.

Microsoft membership,
Rugby Club Membership
A share of family Spotify
Netflix ( we rarely use it)
Beer when we go to Costco
He also has his own Costco card that we pay for.
His mobile he bought the phone we pay £20 a month.
His father sticks money on his club beer card when he thinks I am not looking but only the price of two after a match.

So we worked out that he is living here for £3 a day, I told him that therefore I was quite within my rights to moan about lights being left on, our last energy bill was £400, I pointed out that if DH was only on state pension we would have to choose between and eating, that sobered him up. We didn’t tell him that we have a fixed price deal and don’t pay the full amount every month

Another vote for switch the hot water off! Think she'll cut her shower short then!

Fair if you're paying the bills, if you're not then I don't think you get a say. And even if you are paying the bills generally it's a nice thing to be courteous to other people, particularly where their sleep and well-being is concerned

If they won’t listen to you, then put a padlock on the bathroom door at 11pm and leave a bucket outside the door for night time emergencies 😊

Take the lightbulb out 🤣. I must me blessed, my teenager is asleep by 9pm every night 🤷

I can't see if you've mentioned how old they are?

Although I'm assuming and hoping you're asleep by now!

Omg that'll teach me for saying take the lightbulb - my electrics have all just gone off and now I need to use phone torch to move fridge to get to trip switch 🤣😭

They'll be utterly shit roommates if you don't train them!

@HairTornOutNow

Only if you fancy one if their rooms, if you prefer yours, stick with it.

How old are they. Big difference in approach between 13 & 19. But either way you're the parent & house owner/renter and as such you get to set the rules & teach them not to be so selfish!!

the cheeky one that's refusing (if old enough) I'd be saying they can move out if they don't like the rules!! If younger I'd apply the consequence of being so rude!!

This. Also a partner.

Sorry if I missed it, how old are these kids? I'd give them a quick, swift kick up the arse

Ooh telling you there is nothing you can do about it?! What a cocky little madam. There absolutely is something you can do about it. Stop the privileges, wifi goes off after dinner, router in your room, hidden so they can't switch it back on. No more lifts or favours for them. Or alternatively you could play them at their own game, play loud music outside their room early in the morning when they are trying to sleep in. See how they like it. You need to show them that you mean business and it's your house your rules. I bet they drop the bad attitude pretty fast.