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I'm such an idiot

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bathtimep · 06/02/2024 21:01

I went out with friends a few weeks agofor the first time since my breakup. I was on my own while they were dancing, this guy was being sweet to me and buying me drinks. He seemed like such a sweetheart. We went back to mine and slept together.

The next morning he initiated sex again, we then had breakfast and he left. My housemate left to go to wales, said she needed to speak to me.

He kept messaging me, just normal stuff like how he enjoyed spending time with me, cuddling was nice, how we can see each other again and watch some films. I asked if he wanted to go on a date, he said yes he'd look forward to it.

He seemed to really like me.

Anyway my housemate got back today and she told me while we were upstairs having sex, his phone kept ringing. She went to silence it and saw lots of missed calls on the Home Screen from a woman. She then saw a message from his friend calling me an easy slag.

She went through his messages (bad I know) and his friend is calling me easy; saying he will sleep with me next week. The man I'm sleeping with is laughing along. Meanwhile he's then telling a woman (the one who kept calling) that I am ugly, he doesn't like me but I'm easy even if the sex is shit. He's apologising to her (she must be his wife) and at the same time saying it's her fault he slept with me because he can't have her????!!!

I feel so stupid.

If I'm that ugly and rubbish in bed why was he sleeping with me again and sending nice messages about wanting to spend time together etc?

He seemed so nice and honest.

Why am I so stupid

OP posts:
HateItWhenABitchLetsHimselfSlide · 07/02/2024 00:13

ChildofSunday · 06/02/2024 21:30

I would be tempted to send him the photo of the message and say, ‘you should
think about locking your phone before you message vile things to your friends and ex girlfriend, you tiny dicked c**t’ but that’s just me….
sorry you are feeling down about this, but it really is a reflection on him, not you.

This!

PeggySooo · 07/02/2024 00:13

I don't see what you've done wrong in this situation. Nothing wrong with casual sex if that's what you want.
Block this guy and never speak to him again. Carry on having fun, but learn your lesson that men lie. A lot.
He's lied to you and he's probably lying to the woman

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