Jealous boyfriend..

[PinkPoet]

Hi guys,

I have been with my partner for a while now and we’ve always had such a good relationship. We always work through any differences and we normally get along like a house on fire. I have a 5 year old son from a previous relationship. Around 5 weeks ago I fount out I was pregnant with my partner. We was both so happy as I’ve always wanted more children and he has always wanted to start a family. My question is am I being unreasonable for being upset how ever since I’ve become pregnant he has a serious issue with me being in any communication with my other child’s dad. Myself and my child’s dad are only ever in contact due to him picking him up for the weekend dropping him back etc but my partner thinks I should have him blocked? I feel like this isn’t necessary as we’ve been broken up a long time and although we haven’t always got along in the past we like to remain civil for the sake of our child. I’m being accused of being sly, disrespectful and a bad partner. I’ve tried to explain that I do not have any feelings towards my ex and I am with my partner for a reason and I’ve never given him any reason to not trust me. I’m only around 7 weeks in pregnancy and am really struggling with my hormones and sickness at the moment and I can’t be dealing with his constant outbursts and walking out and trying to cause an argument. Do you think I am being unreasonable or is it the other way round?

Abusive behaviour often begins when the woman is pregnant. I’d really carefully consider your next move, OP.

He wants to rewrite your history. Starting with your ex.. Progressing imo to your dc....

He is showing you who he is - I’d reconsider your relationship and whether you want to have a child with this man.

The abuse has begun and it will get worse. This is fucking textbook, op. Straight out of the abuser's handbook. If I were you, I would have a termination and get as far away from this man as possible. He is not the person you think he is.

https://www.nhs.uk/pregnancy/support/domestic-abuse-in-pregnancy/

You can't block the father of your child. He sounds a bit thick.

This is not a path you want to go down.

this...

You're pregnant with his baby; akin to property, even though nothing between you and the ex, he sees your contact as abhorrent.

He's showing you his colours, don't ignore what he's showing, listen to your gut.

You're vulnerable now, and you'll only get more vulnerable if you carry on.

I wouldn’t continue a pregnancy with a man who suddenly started behaving abusively during the pregnancy, or who did anything other than support and enable my civil co-parenting relationship with the father of my older child.

In your shoes I would terminate and remove this man from your life.

This is a huge problem - would he be ok if you split up and blocked him so he didn’t get to see his child? He sounds childish and stupid - are you sure you want to have a child with him?

100% this.

What Aqua said, this is classic abuse. Please read up on it.

There is nothing wrong with being in contact with the Father of your son, the fact that he only had an issue with it when you became pregnant shows you who he really is. Please consider terminating this pregnancy as you will end up co-parenting with a controlling abusive arsehole.

Don't doubt yourself. You know that you aren't being unreasonable. Don't let him make you question yourself. As above, pregnancy is when abusers ramp up the abuse, keep you isolated, make you dependant. This guy sounds awful, he does not feel safe to be around. I know this is not what what you want to hear right now, but this is has massive massive red flags written all over it.