AIBU to be upset at his comments ?

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I’m around 8 weeks postpartum and have only lost 5kg. I gained a lot of weight during my pregnancy, just over 15kg. Pre baby I had lost a lot of weight and was very active, worked out 4/5 days a week, ate healthily and managed to get to 60kg. Prior to this weight loss I was morbidly obese - lost over 25kg. I’m exclusively breastfeeding but I haven’t had the mental capacity to even think about exercising and dieting. I’ve not been very active due to recovering from a C Section and lots of illnesses/hospitalisations since baby was born - positive Flu A ,chest infections etc.

Now to the AIBU - I went to have my routine postpartum check. I was weighed and the doctor said, “so you haven’t lost the baby weight then” and suggested to try and exercise to lose the weight and that it would help with my postpartum depression. I was slightly upset by this comment but I’m aware I really do need to make more of a conscious effort to get out of the house, move more and eat better. I’ve been comfort eating. I told my DH what the doctor has said.

A few days later DH was giving me a hug and said, “you’re soft and squishy” and “more cushion for the pushing”, then proceeded to wobble my stomach and hips. I told him thanks a lot for that and I had had a little cry during my night feed about it.

I know I really should have lost more weight by now and it makes me feel disgusting. I feel an immense pressure to “bounce back”. Although DH’s comments are not nasty they are hurtful. He is fully aware I have had a very rough time. Am I just being overly sensitive ? AIBU to be upset at his comments ?

I'm furious on your behalf.

I'm really shocked that your GP made such a horrible comment. It wasn't a medically based comment, because any GP would know that you can't just magically lose 15kg overnight and if you did there would be something seriously metabolically wrong with you.

Slow and steady wins the race here. So what if you're still in your maternity jeans. See if you can find some regular (i.e. non-maternity) tracksuit bottoms that you could wear instead. You'll eventually make it back to your normal jeans but as I said, it's not going to happen over night.

Go to your appointment and tell them that you don't feel supported at home or in your GP surgery.

Tell your DH that his comments were hurtful considering what your body has been through and he isn't to make comments like that again.

Give yourself time. Enjoy your baby. Go for walks and before you know it, another kilo or two will be gone! It all works out. Be kind to yourself.