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AIBU?

To only buy gift for one child?

20 replies

AllstarFacilier · 06/02/2024 07:23

We’ve had a party invite for a child’s party. The invite has two names on as it is a joint birthday party. The mums know each other and have hired a hall together. However, we only know one child. Is it tight to only turn up with a gift for him, or is it the norm to buy for both children in this situation?

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Am I being unreasonable?

67 votes. Final results.

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You are being unreasonable
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You are NOT being unreasonable
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Bringonthesunforthewashing · 06/02/2024 07:24

I would buy for both

Wictc · 06/02/2024 07:29

Just buy for one, I wouldn’t want a parent who is struggling to waste money on a gift for my child when they had more pressing things to buy.

Hesma · 06/02/2024 07:32

I’d buy for the child you know and give a card to the other

Passthecake30 · 06/02/2024 07:33

I’d give a token gift to the other child, sweets, sticker book, age dependent.

WaltzingWaters · 06/02/2024 07:34

No I’d only buy for the child you know. Presumably that child will also have friends only known to them who will also only buy for them. Just thank both sets of parents at the end.

HotToes · 06/02/2024 07:35

Spend a fiver on each.

Bournetilly · 06/02/2024 07:36

If you only know one then I’d just buy for one.

FASDE1517 · 06/02/2024 07:38

Definitely just one. Maybe a box of maltesers or a pack of sweets for the other if you really want but it won't be necessary

Tatonka · 06/02/2024 07:38

Passthecake30 · 06/02/2024 07:33

I’d give a token gift to the other child, sweets, sticker book, age dependent.

I'd do this (presumably the other parent has paid for the venue etc)

Tourmalines · 06/02/2024 07:39

Only for the one you know.

Nevermind31 · 06/02/2024 07:49

Only for the one you know

RockSocks · 06/02/2024 08:00

Dd2 had an invite like this 2 weeks ago.
One child she's very close to the other she's never mentioned their name even though they are jn the same class.

My normal limit for a birthday party is £10 so I just got Dd2 to make cards for them both and put £5 in each.

Mrsjayy · 06/02/2024 08:02

Hesma · 06/02/2024 07:32

I’d buy for the child you know and give a card to the other

this what we used to do if it was a double party, the parents of the kid you don't know isn't expecting a gift.

TinkerTiger · 06/02/2024 08:06

No, they'll both be inviting friends that know each. Buy for the child you know. I did this recently and didn't even give it a second thought.

NuffSaidSam · 06/02/2024 08:09

I'd ask the parent who sent the invitation. They'll know what they're expecting better than any of us will and you'll flag up the issue of them so they can let everyone else know too.

Hiddenvoice · 06/02/2024 08:10

If only buy the gift for the child you know and maybe a packet of sweets and a card for the other.

idontlikealdi · 06/02/2024 08:10

But for the one you know, card and a token gift for the second one. Totally acceptable

Idontjetwashthefucker · 06/02/2024 08:12

Buy for the one you know

Funkyslippers · 06/02/2024 08:12

Just for the child you know definitely

peatblock · 06/02/2024 09:15

I would get something small for the other child! Pretty mean not to acknowledge them, no one is forcing you to accept the invitation.

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