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Note for crush...help!

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Springisnear4 · 05/02/2024 20:21

I'm moving out of my flat and I'm thinking about sending my neighbour who I really fancy a note before I leave. But what could I say on it? I'm thinking something like, hi (name) I always tend to lose touch with neighbours when I move so here's my number if you fancy going for a drink sometime.
Is that rubbish? Also I'm not 100% sure he is straight and I have no way of finding out, I looked him up on Facebook and a picture on his page suggests he might be gay.
Ahhh what to do!!

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Herdinggoats · 05/02/2024 20:28

Im not sure how a picture might suggest someone is gay, but would suspect very few straight men would use an image suggesting they were…
The note is lame, but if you’re moving you have little to lose?

Nicetiesandwhatnot · 05/02/2024 20:29

Why not actually say that to him it's much better than a note.

Springisnear4 · 05/02/2024 20:30

@Herdinggoats it's a picture of him with a man and it looks like they're a couple but it's from years ago and I know he lives alone

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Springisnear4 · 05/02/2024 20:30

@Nicetiesandwhatnot because I'm not confident enough to

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PaulCostinRIP · 05/02/2024 20:32

If he was interested wouldn't he have said something whilst you were living there?

MindfulGrateful · 05/02/2024 20:34

If you feel you have the guts, I think the best thing to do would be to just ask him face to face: I really like you, fancy going for a drink sometime? No need to create a subtext about losing touch etc, and no danger of being misinterpreted. If he's gay or not interested, you'll find out cleanly and as pain free as possible. And he'll probably respect your balls, even if not interested, which will feel good. You'll feel like a badass and then never need to see him ever again if you don't want.

Best case scenario, you get a date!

Good luck

UpUpUpU · 05/02/2024 20:38

Can you not just add him on Facebook?

Nicetiesandwhatnot · 05/02/2024 20:40

Can you tell a little more ? Do you see him often like say hello or smile at all?

Springisnear4 · 05/02/2024 20:43

@Nicetiesandwhatnot I don't see him often, we've only had 2 conversations ever!

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Nicetiesandwhatnot · 05/02/2024 20:47

Then a casual conversation would be better than a note. Maybe on the lines of the note I am not sure about asking for a drink out. But hopefully someone wiser would pop in and say something wiser

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