For parents with teens and older children living away from home?

[girlfriend44]

Inspired by another discussion.

Are there many people with teenagers or adult children who live away from home but don't keep in touch?
Should it always be the parents job to do the running and contacting?
Some people think a parent should always do the contacting even if they dont get contacted back. It's the parents job in other words?
Surely it should be a two way thing though?
Not much of a relationship if the parents always makes the move and does the phoning/texting etc?

Don't stand on ceremony here.

Make the effort to contact them.

Ask if there's something holding them back from calling you.

It's nobody's job. Whoever wants to speak to another person makes contact.

2 way I think.

I think more on the parent but more like 60-40. If you have a good relationship then a child will contact their parent regardless.

Make a family WhatsApp group and just generally ask if anyone is free on whatever day this week or whenever. Just make plans without worrying about who is supposed to do it first.

Perhaps it’s boys that don’t make the effort so much, my friends with girls don’t seem to have a problem. But i like to think my boys are independent men that don’t need to talk to their mummy all the time.
My MIL would write letters and phone my husband twice a week until she died. My husband never made the effort to pick up the phone.
Ive asked my boys to phone me, but they never do, unless i put it on the wattsap group, then it’ll happen.

Perhaps it’s boys that don’t make the effort so much, my friends with girls don’t seem to have a problem. But i like to think my boys are independent men that don’t need to talk to their mummy all the time well they’re obviously getting the message loud and clear from your attitude. Sexist twaddle

What's the AIBU/voting option here?

Husband sounds abit selfish never making the effort for his mum?