Do your kids play with toys when you visit

[spanieleyes22]

When I visit my friend she always has all the toys tidied away upstairs and her 2 little girls are downstairs with us in the sitting room watching tv. We are trying to chat but they get bored and start messing about just normal stuff like climbing on the sofas rolling on the floor just normal things .id be happy to play with them but there's nothing to do. My friend is tired I think and wants them to sit down and watch tv til bedtime and be quiet while we talk. Every time it ends in tears as she shouts at them in frustration . Does anyone else do this. I always was surrounded by toys at their age 4 and 6 and could use distraction if they were getting antsy. I tried telling them go up and find something to play wit but my friend gets anxious about the potential mess .

Sounds like your friend needs a break, OP. I get it.....she's spent time tidying beforr yiu come over, and hipe the kids watch TV and are quiet so you two can visit together.

Easy fix, here. Bring some age appropriate toys, games, books with you when you get to her place. When the kids start getting antsy, pull them out, let them play whilst you visit, and then you and kids pick them all up when you are ready to leave. If your friend says anything, tell her you are happy to let these things distract the children and clean hem up on your way out so you two can focus more on visiting with each other.

Thanks yes I have done this a few times but then there's an argument where the girls want to keep the games and I ended up buying something every time and then my friend got annoyed and said I shouldn't be bringing things. Even tho I didn't mind I only brought little things to distract them not expensive or things my daughter grew out
Of. Yeh I get it too she is tired of tidying..

Anyone?