Concerned at tactlessness re deaf child

[PorridgeEater]

I'm writing on behalf of someone whose much-loved child was born profoundly deaf, and with other problems, after a traumatic pregnancy and birth. The child will never be able to speak.
My mother when talking to her started raving about the fact that her (younger) grandchild could say "hippopotamus." This to a mum who would have been over the moon if her child could have said "mama." It seemed so tactless - AIBU?

Sometimes people just speak without thinking. I doubt it was said to cause upset.

It’s just a foot in mouth moment. I’ve had them, I have a few friends who are parents of autistic children (as am I). There’s been times I’ve talked about what one of mine have said or even having my eldest chatter endlessly about his later hyper focus and thought later ‘shit, maybe X didn’t want to hear about that, their child is non-verbal’. But on the flip side it makes it easier for me to let things go in a second of hurt that has no malice behind it. When you’re a parent of children with additional needs, you really have to hard filter what is actually hurtful and what is just another person talking about their life, which they’re absolutely entitled to do.

Please stop being offended on other people's behalf. The profoundly deaf child is likely to have multiple areas in which they excel - being good at maths, gymnastics, being an amazing and compassionate friend.. whatever. By feeling offended on their behalf outs you as someone who thinks less of disabled people. It's not a good look.

When you say you’re ’posting on someone else’s behalf’, do you mean the mother of the deaf child was profoundly offended by your mother’s comment and for some reason asked you to post on here to see if she was unreasonable? Or that you are being offended on her behalf?

Why would you presume a profoundly Deaf child will never be able to speak?
Practically all profoundly Deaf children will speak, it may never be their primary source of communication, or in a way that others may understand, apart from close family and friends, but ,yes, they do speak. I have a deaf son in his 30s with numerous Deaf friends, my best friend is profoundly Deaf, all signers, and I worked in Deaf education and audiology for many years, but all can speak. No such thing as Deaf and dumb!

I have a non verbal child it doesn't offend me that people show off about their kids tbh. It's just lack of thought and pride in their own

Completely thoughtless in my opinion.

I have x2 non verbal children and a baby diagnosed from birth as moderately deaf with regular audiology appointments to ensure the hearing loss doesn’t get worse as it can! It’s a permanent loss I’ve had plenty of stupid comments from people saying “gromits fixed mine as a kid?!””” Pffffft some people are literally unbelievable! Extremely tactless and ridiculous! I think some people just have a really nasty streak!