Being called by wrong name…

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Now this maybe sounds a bit petty, but still..
I’ve been going to the same exercise class for many years. Its a small group and I enjoy going.
The issue is the instructor persists in calling me by the wrong name, instead calling me the name of someone else in the class. I’ve got a very ordinary name, not difficult to pronounce. And she doesn’t misname anyone else, it’s only ever really me!
I’ve quietly corrected her most times, but it keeps on happening , seems to be even worse lately. She doesn’t really apologise, once telling me I look like the other person!
But it’s getting annoying , especially as when I’m lying down, I’ve no idea if she means to talk to me or not. I’m actually thinking of joining another class now.

I'd stop correcting her quietly, and do it at a normal speaking voice.

Not pissed off (if you can manage it!) but just normal volume so everyone can hear.

If that doesn't work, I'd probably get a bit arsey and say something like, 'Nope, I'm still Caroline!'

Or call her Mildred at every opportunity. Unless her name is Mildred, in which case call her Daphne.

Oh you have to do this!

Thanks for all the replies, views and suggestions. As I said, I don’t think it’s deliberate, but it’s persistent and she’s not coming across as bothered about it.
I’ve just spent a short while online, found another class locally and emailed the teacher. Will see how that goes….

It's really not petty of you at all. And she's nasty. It's basic to call someone by their name ffs. I would be very angry about that tbh.

with the best will in the world, some people are just no good at names.

I was going to say vote with your feet but I don't think that's a good idea especially if you like the class and the others are a good bunch. Have you approached her either before or after class to say it's bothering you as it's something that's now skipped from a mishap to what I'd consider remarkably disrespectful.

Yes, I think I’ll do that this week, her response will guide my decision going forward. But even writing and then reading this thread has made me think about things. I’ve just checked how many years I’ve been going to her class, it’s longer than I’d realised. Maybe try a change, try to keep in contact with some nice people there

In our family tree we dont use our names we call each other by our nicknames.
We only use our names for appointments really and when we hear its 5 seconds in with oh yeah thats me.

It's ok to get it wrong once. But after that no. You hsve to learn.

Yes, particularly as she’s running a business really. If she was calling everyone else by the wrong name maybe it wouldn’t be so bad. But it’s just me and that doesn’t feel very nice.

And if you can't? Then what? Then you need to be called out and ridiculed and have your job made difficult for you, according to this thread. That is very discriminatory in itself.

I don't recall saying anything about called out and ridiculed? I was thinking more about stocks and rotten veg tbh 🙄

Oh I remember I had a gym person do this to me, got my name wrong all the time. I even directly told her my name, but it was absolutely stuck as mud and she couldn't unlearn it.

Ended up leaving.

What do the other class members say when she gets it wrong?

Some very passive aggressive people do this when they think your name is spelt 'wrong' or they dislike your name. I knew someone like this once. Used to call her DC's friend who was named Carver, "builder" or "Joiner" 🙄

She’s always calling you the same wrong name?

I’d go and see her after class, say she keeps getting your name wrong, it’s very irritating, she doesn’t do it to anyone else. Could she write your name down please to remind herself.

If she does it again, correct her at the time - ‘Lucy, you keep calling me Helen - I’m Kate’. Repeat that everytime.

As you are the only one she does it to, I can understand your annoyance.

I would not respond if she calls you by the wrong name, then say "oh, you mean me? I am Delores not Priscilla". Every time. Not stroppy, just factual.

If it doesn't change then go elsewhere. Your money, your choice.

Well they say nothing, but at the end of last weeks class someone mentioned she was calling me the wrong name again

A few years ago she kept calling me by the name of the woman I then sat next to. This woman changed classes, now she’s calling me by the name of the person I’m now usually next to. She never called/ calls them by my name.

Yes, it seems stuck. But also that she’s not that bothered. Not surprised you left.

A university lecturer used to call me the wrong name all the time. She was super dismissive when I told her my name is.... So I started calling her the wrong name. She learned my name quickly.

I think I'd get a joke t-shirt printed saying:

"My name is Jane, not Mary!" (or whatever the names are obviously...)

Have you tried calling her by the wrong name? "Excuse me Geoffrey, am I doing this exercise right?".

This.

@sharptoothlemonshark And if you can't? Then what? Then you need to be called out and ridiculed and have your job made difficult for you, according to this thread. That is very discriminatory in itself.

For this long with only one person after repeated corrections? Yeah that's not a disability

I say this as someone with prosopagnosia.

There are ways to remember. And it is vanishingly rare to have it with one person only. So rare I've never heard of it

A few years ago she kept calling me by the name of the woman I then sat next to. This woman changed classes, now she’s calling me by the name of the person I’m now usually next to. She never called/ calls them by my name

Oh she's taking the piss .