To feel sad I have no old school friends

[MsScoot]

i am friends with old school friends on social media. I sometimes see photos of some of them meeting up, and it makes me feel sad that I have no contact at all with old school friends.

after I left school, i tried to keep in touch, but none of them were interested. I also felt like I never quite fitted in at school.

as an adult (I’m 40 ffs) I have lots of friends, good career and family. But just sometimes I feel sad at having no contact with old school friends

Very similar @MsScoot and I too feel sad about it. Thinking of my group of 5, one I think never really took to me, and those other 4 stayed somewhat local during/after Uni - all their parents lived in the same 5 mile radius. Whereas my parents move abroad at that time and I went onto spend time abroad during holidays so I wasn't home uni holidays like they were. It became impossible to 'get back in' with the group. Once every 3 ish years I get a small email back from one person but I always initiate. Thing is I know 2/4 have had a very hard time for different reasons, both things I've/my family have been through. I wish I was there to support them in some way. I wish they were reading this!

So I only have my so called “best friend” from school on social media. We stopped actively being friends as soon as we left school but she keeps in touch with quite a large group of other school friends and our friendship was written out of the school narrative. They regularly meet up for drinks and post the photos on social media and I have to admit while sometimes I think it would have been nice to have close Friends for that long, in reality I see these women approaching 50 who more or less look the same, drink the same drinks, live in the same areas, go to the same pubs and hang out with the same friends they did at 14 and think it’s just a bit sad that they haven’t moved on from the jolly hockey stick crap from back in the day.

I think it's nice when I see people who are still friends with people from school, but equally the ones who are only friends with people from school I feel a bit sorry for as it seems they've not made any new ones and still stuck in that time (although if they are happy good for them). Most people don't stay in touch as people change, move etc. I'm only in sporadic touch with one person it's nice to know someone who knew you when you were 'young' and we have so many funny stories, but equally you said you didn't feel you fitted in so I don't know why you'd want to stay in touch with these people anyway

What's the saying ... for a reason, for a season or a lifetime

I have no school and no uni friends. It does make me sad.

I also never quite fitted in, was bullied and never found 'my tribe'

I tried to contact some from school and found I had zero in common with them anymore.