Is your partner utterly vile when ill?

[Mimikyuu]

I know it’s generally accepted that men are the weaker sex when it comes to being sick, but my husband, who is usually my best friend and the most amazing husband, is utterly fucking vile when he’s poorly. I’ve spent most of the day in tears because of his attitude towards me because he has a fucking cold. Never mind the fact that I have the same cold, I’m also on my period and I’m recovering from quite a major surgery. But ok he wins!

Im so upset with him. He’s like this every time he’s ill. I wouldn’t care if he was just the typical “woe is me” useless man flu type, but he is just outright horrible to be around.

Not really much point to his post other than to vent 🥲

No, and I wouldn't stand for it. He doesn't treat me with disrespect at all, it's no different when he's ill.

Is this really only when he's ill, Is he respectful and considerate the rest of the time? Pulls his weight with childcare and housework, doesn't put himself first all the way? What's he like when you are ill?

Yes! He’s amazing the rest of the time it’s a real Jekyll and Hyde situation.

That doesn't sound right 😞 is he even apologetic or embarrassed after he feels better?

No. My husband is never vile to me. He’s a bit inept at some things but never mean or horrible.

No. DH would not longer be DH if he was vile to me more than a couple of times.
What happens if he becomes infirm does he expect you to look after him?
Fuck that.

I'm with you op, dh is a right mardy fucker when ill or tired

I’ve sent him to his mums and told him to grow the fuck up or don’t bother coming back. Honestly so pathetic. Poor little man had to look after the kids for a whole week alone because I was in hospital.

No, he'd be my ex husband if he ever thought it was acceptable to use me as an emotional punching bag. Idgaf how ill he is, there's no excuse for it.

No. He’s a bit of a wuss and typical “man flu” but never nasty, mean, short tempered or anything else.

Yes and really unpleasant