Am I a hotel ?!

[BlacChocaloop]

Not sure if I am being a bit precious here.

A friend asked to stay a weekend at mine ( big city) as she had a course to attend

I obviously said fine , she will stay 1 or 2 nights , she has just messaged to say one night she will be meeting a friend of hers for dinner , if she only stays one night then she might as well stay in a hotel !

She’ll prob get an allowance for her overnight stay which she could, in theory, pocket (happened to me, only figured it out after several months of regular stays).
I would say sorry a stay won’t work but happy to meet up at/near her hotel for dinner.

Friend was coming for a course, asked to stay, you said yes. While staying she wanted to see another friend. Don't see a problem really. I stayed with a friend overnight with my DP as we were going to an event and it was to avoid paying for a hotel. Friend was fine with it, gave us a key and was glad to help. I'd do the same for her. I think the OP is being a bit huffy TBH. If it's bothering you that much tell her she can't stay after all.

Why doesn't she stay at the friend's house she's having dinner with? Unless maybe she's worried about putting you out so she's saying effectively "I'll be out of your hair anyway"

Maybe the friend she is planning to meet doesn't have the living arrangements for her to stay the night or maybe it's someone she's getting to know.....
Anyway its your friend...I don't see the problem with helping out.

I think I’d message back saying it makes sense if you stay at the friends house instead …..

"Lovely, it's sounds great. Where are you taking me for dinner with X?"

She is probably pocketing her expenses/per diem if it is a work course.

So she's at yours for the weekend but catching up with someone else whilst she's there? Maybe she doesn't want to impose too much on you and is making herself scarce? Hope she's taking you out for a meal as well though?