How to dealWith the flat feeling

[Lifeafterbooze]

any ideas ?
im a lonely single carer of 1 with no family a few friends

my Problem is I’m so overweight from drinking and take aaays it’s dangerous. Iv probably been blocking out the pain but I’m not sure how to stop this? I feel flat and dead Inside when I don’t eat/drink but then I feel awful doing it
any ideas on how to sort this?

That sounds really tough. I don’t have any personal experience but didn’t want your thread to go unanswered.

You could see if you can get support from any local carers groups. Sometimes they advertise online or your GP’s surgery might know of some. It must be very hard being a carer and you deserve to get some help to manage your feelings.

I’m afraid I’m not qualified to speak to the issues you’re having around alcohol and overeating. Do you feel that you could speak to your GP and see what help is available to you? You obviously recognise that there is a problem, which is the hardest step to take. You should feel proud of yourself that you’ve come to this realisation. I really hope things improve for you. Take care of yourself.

Do you have a spare hour a week to maybe join a slimming club? I've done slimming world on and off for around 5 years and everyone is generally friendly and mostly there alone. It could be a chance for you to lose weight and meet some new people.

Depending upon what alcohol and takeaways you enjoy, there's always a good alternative/swap (e.g. swap wine for vodka and diet cola).

Is there something you can replace the drink and takeaways with? How much free time do you have?

I replaced some very unhealthy habits with a challenge of walking up to as many trig points as I can but I am aware you might not have time to do that. IME you can't cold turkey your crutch, you need to replace your coping methods with healthier alternatives.

You're dealing with so much, it must be difficult to find a place to start.

Have you been on alcohol support under Health?

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/alcohol_support

Can you talk to the friends you mention?

I think the flat feeling comes from depression. Talk to your GP. Maybe the surgery has a support staff to help with your overall health as well.

You deserve to feel good and healthy