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AIBU - Men fully understanding women's point of view

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Assertivewoman53 · 02/02/2024 22:21

Had a conversation with DP about seeing things from other people's pont of view. DP works in a mainly female area, think 35% male and I work in a mainly male area, think 15% female. We've been together around 10 years and the number of women in my area has increased a lot since I started 20 years ago.

DP said he completely understands the challenges I've had over the last 20 years, even though we have only been together 10 years. I said I can't totally understand the challenges he has had because I wasn't there despite hearing about the experience. He is completely sure he knows exactly what I went through before we met and during maternity leave while we were together etc.

AIBU to be PO that he thinks he completely understands my experience over the last 20 years?

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Am I being unreasonable?

21 votes. Final results.

You are being unreasonable
You are NOT being unreasonable
ACynicalDad · 03/02/2024 03:10

I suspect he transposes his issues to you and whilst there’s overlap I doubt it covers the half of it.

gestroopd · 03/02/2024 04:17

Men are very often confident in their views, well-researched, well-founded or not. Not quite man-spraining, but in the same field.

I see it as part of that. It's part of being socialised male.

Now there are men who aren't like that and women who are like that, but I'm talking about general trends, not every individual.

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