Neighbour taking advantage

[Cinnamongirlinthesand]

Hi ladies
Recently moved after a DV relationship.
Offered new neighbour a lift go shopping once, now they're demanding when to go.Mainly when it suits them, no offer of help towards petrol etc, as I'm going anyway.
I have family, dogs and horses to care for.
Plus I have a health condition which can floor me at times.
I know NO is the easiest word but it's getting me down..Due to location of rural properties they know my comings and goings.

How to handle this without falling out?
My daughter, is furious, say's mum I'll shop for you or do online.
Don't want a fall out with neighbours.

Best way to get rid of cheeky fucker is to start asking them for favours etc.

Take them shopping and forget your purse. Ask them to pay for you. Guarantee they won’t ask again.

This.
Do the Freedom Programme. Read around shark cage too.

Did you miss the bit about her just being out of a DV relationship, or do you totally lack any empathy?

@Cinnamongirlinthesand

I've been there too..

It's just too one sided

Just out cf them. Go ask to borrow money.

Something happened to me but the difference in my case was I used to live in a housing estate and a woman I used to be friends with would wait till I was walking by with my son and I would hear banging on her window saying "can you bring her to school seems as you are going that way ? .In the beginning I said yes but my son would get upset as he loved it being just the two of us . We used to have to leave the house earlier just so we would miss her. It came to.a head one morning when I shouted to her that she is nothing but a lazy cow and maybe she should bother to get up and bring her daughter herself instead of depending on me. I then walked on and she never asked me again. You should take up your daughter on her offer otherwise Try online shopping till your neighbour gets the message or speak up or put up.with the constant asking can you take her here and there.

Ime the best neighbour is one that ignores you!!

Well done for texting. Just remember you don’t have to justify your choice so if there’s more texts just repeat what you have already said and/or then ignore.

Best to break it now before they think they can’t use you for other things too. Bit of awkwardness for a bit is better than years of being someone lapdog.

Well done for saying no. Have you had any help with your recovery from the DV? I got support after my abusive marriage ended. Its helpful to recognise behaviour that can make you vulnerable and to give you confidence to set boundaries.