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DH putting me on edge

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confused2344 · 02/02/2024 17:49

Long time poster changed name.

DH has a company/is a tradesman and has a very good reputation and lots of work, he's friendly and reliable and good at what he does.

He doesn't have the same patience when doing jobs at home.

We've not long been in our new house and he finished early today, I was at a friends with our baby for the afternoon and DH called me to say he was going to paint the kitchen as good opportunity whilst we were out and he had an early day.

I get home and the kitchen is nearly finished.

I play with our daughter for a bit then ask how long it's going to be as she's due to have dinner soon and I need the fridge and microwave. He says he's nearly finished. 15 minutes later he's pushing the fridge back into the kitchen and it gets caught on the door threshold strip, he immediately shouts "for fuck sake" and proceeds to force it over ripping the entire threshold off and then it was stuck under the fridge so he decided to grab it and pull it out with his hand and has cut his hand.

I said to him "you wouldn't treat a customers home like that so why ours?" And he said it's because he doesn't have customers in his ear hurrying him up "do this, do that, this needs finishing" I said I don't think it's fair to blame it on me and he told me to drop it and is now not talking to me.

I haven't done anything wrong but when he's like this it puts me on edge, he's never been violent etc but I'm beginning to get sick of being on the brunt end of it when things don't go his way whilst doing jobs around the house.

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Dacadactyl · 02/02/2024 18:05

Maybe he's just a bit burnt out? Can't be easy doing a physical job all day and then coming home to do more physical stuff.

Maybe say to him to take a break on the work at home for a bit.

Also, moving house and having a baby are both stressful (for both of you) It doesn't excuse the swearing and shouting but he's only human.

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