How do you not stress about your job, especially at weekends when something important is coming up?

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I don’t know if I’m good at my job, I think I’m ok but my confidence isn’t great. We are in a really busy period at the moment and I’m struggling to switch off especially at weekends when the week ahead looks busy with important meetings / events. My mind starts thinking about worse case scenarios - I’m bound to catch that bug and not be on my best when I need to be, what if this or that goes wrong….. please help me stop! I know work is important but I want to be someone who likes works to live not lives to work!!

My ex is like this. I don't understand it. I'm in a pretty senior role but fundamentally a) it's not life or death, b) I'm very confident in my abilities

I went PT when work was the first and last thing I thought about.

What has helped me in the past is to be as well-prepared for the week ahead of time.
Lunch made.
Clothes picked and laid out.
Bag ready by the door.

I’m like this OP, a few things help:

• Retrain your brain when you catch yourself doing the ‘what if it all goes wrong’ reframe as what if it all goes right. Reject and correct the negative thoughts (easier said than done but gets easier in time)
• will it matter in 3 weeks time, 3months time? Or will you have forgotten all about it?
• Remind yourself you can’t do anything about it over the weekend so no point worrying. You might catch that bug but it’s completely out of your control so worrying will achieve nothing except making you feel rubbish.
• look up CBT techniques for anxious thoughts
• distraction - my go to is trash TV or a good book.

Also you will gain confidence in your role over time, it’s taken me years but I am much more confident and worry less about things going wrong.

Things that help me if big event:

• hypnotherapy with positive statements
• relaxing massage
• scented candles
• spiritualist church services
• driving in car on my own listening to loud music
• if sunday long walk in nature
• i go swimming x4 per week, v relaxing
• im senior but one close female friend at work who i can be 100% honest with

Tbh i often struggle to cope
I have propanol on prescription

I have a busy job but I don’t get paid enough for worrying about it over the weekend.

Do you experience, or have you experienced, anxiety about other things in your life, or is it only about work?

I could have written this post and reading in hopes someone can give me some tips! I am PT but the job is more like FT one, lots of responsibility and stress, and feel like have a gnawing ball of stress in my stomach all the time atm. Definitely not paid enough to feel like this. It’s not always this bad though flares up regularly, but have had a difficult few weeks and feeling it badly, struggling to switch off / sleep / not worry all the time. I do have anxiety and have never taken anything for it. Starting to think I should.

My mentor once told me “it’s all bollocks!” He was right. I say it to myself whenever I get stressed

I have a very senior role with lots of "oh-so-important" fuckery going on all the time. But, it's just a job. That's it. It's not my life and it definitely doesn't define me as a person. I stay organised, I put in my best effort, and that's all I can do. That's what I'm paid for, nothing more. There's no way I'm giving up any of my precious free time or emotional energy for a job.

It's just a job - unless you own the company tell yourself that you can always leave and it will no longer be your shit to deal with