Been with DP for 10 years. 2 DC together. For the first 3/4 years I found lots of messages to other females whilst we were together - often of a sexual nature, pretending he didn’t have a GF, talking about meeting up etc. he did meet up with some of these females, drove some home after they’d been on a night out etc. when I found out, he always claimed and swore nothing physical happened.
stupidly I always “forgave” him and didn’t leave. I should have ran a mile right at the beginning.
he also used to “like” females thirst trap photos/half naked photos/selfies of girls he did and didn’t know. I made my feelings very clear that I wasn’t okay with this and I classed it as emotional cheating. he continued to “like” them in phases…I’d find out, he’d stop for a while and then restart the cycle…
it’s taken so much hard work to get to a point where I felt I could finally trust him. The past few years have been okay; despite being turbulent in other areas. I finally felt that I could trust him.
however I found that he’d started “liking” tonnes of these photos again. And has always been commenting on them, showing his attraction to them.
I’ve confronted him and I feel that enough is enough, I need to leave. He tells me it’s all harmless, he doesn’t see it as cheating and has said I’m crazy for planning to leave because of some photos.
AIBU for planning to leave purely based on the current situation of a large amount of liking and commenting on these photos?
or
AIBU for planning to leave based on everything mentioned above?
I feel I know the answer, I just need validation and the confidence to push through - if I’m not being unreasonable of course.