To be all over the place

[feelingstucktoday]

If anybody has been following my work saga, you'd know the following:

*I was labelled to have an existential crisis/bored at work that turned out or be a non event.
*This period did show me that I actually don't like my role as it doesn't make the most of my skillset.
*My manager got promoted
*In the re-org she promoted my colleague instead, and now I report to her.
*Said colleague always hesitates, doesn't have the best time management, and asks for too much guidance from the circle around her - my manager admits that she has a lack of autonomy.
*I was finally told that I didn't get promoted down to a personality trait and it was in no way a reflection of my performance.
*I was given a made up consolation prize role
*This new role ticks more boxes HOWEVER I will still report to my colleague who has zero experience in this type of role.
*There's absolutely no foreseeable growth.

They pay me really well, and I believe in what the company does. It's also a fully remote job (I need it) and as we know those aren't as common anymore.

I know it's silly to be so angry about not getting the promotion, when I don't even like the core role. At least, my new role implies I won't have to do so much of the "boring" stuff, but quite frankly reporting to someone who asks for my advice all the time is a bit demoralising, and I don't know how long I'll be able to take it.

What's stopping you looking for a new job?

Is the "personality trait" a protected characteristic?

If so, contact ACAS

I know it's not great for ego that your colleague got promoted instead of you, but as you say remote roles are like golddust and reporting to someone who asks for your opinion too much is a better problem to have than working for someone who never asks and blocks you out of all decisions! It basically means you can influence, steer and get your own way from within!

In practice the lack of a non-work laptop. Which I will solve in a few weeks.

I am ND but havent disclosed it. However, my manager said, they needed someone who could channel a "strict teacher" and I'm more of the "chilled".

Maybe, but I feel like I'd be doing some of her TL duties without any real influence. It's not like it would be policy related, but more around her lack of business acumen and product knowledge.

If you keep looking for problems where there really are none, you'll find them.

Your role as a whole works very well for you, but if you want to give it up for something much less suitable, go right ahead. Your ego is the problem, not your new boss.

"I am ND but havent disclosed it."

They know. They just don't know that you know so they have to tiptoe around it which probably isn't doing you any favours.

My job works really well from a practical POV, but not from a fulfillment one.

My new manager is not the problem, but I think the whole situation is.

Being in an unfulfilling role with no room for growth and just staying for the paycheck is not necessarily what I wanted in life.

I am curious- why would they expect a "strict teacher" type in a remote role? (It's not meant to be snarky, but i dont work remotely and can't work out what you'd be doing that would require you to be like a strict teacher!

It can be done! I've worked remotely for the past 12+ years and it definitely can be done.

However, this need for a "strict teacher" comes from not understanding what is really going on with my colleagues across the pond. They are potentially VERY capable and just had a terrible manager, so a more nurturing one could be a better fit. But we don't know, nobody really knows. It's just that their manager was a mess and my colleagues carry his reputation.

I was diagnosed while in this role, and I genuinely didn't know until I had a lightbulb moment.

I don't think it's that obvious but that I wouldn't know.

Have you started your new made-up job yet? I thought it sounded fantastic. You wanted an arena to prove yourself, and they basically gave you carte blanche.

I thought you were too hung up on your colleague getting the promotion you felt should be yours. I still think you are. Can't you focus on creating your new thing instead?

I have, in fact my signature / slack / LinkedIn all reflect the new title.

But as of today, there isn't enough workload to be my main thing. Having done it before, it will come in waves.

This week my workload would be around 4 hours and next week another 4. A couple of others are cooking in the background, but they haven't reached the stage where I'd join them

If anybody has been following my work saga

I normally don't mind people posting again/updating, but you've posted about this so much and had tons of responses and it feels like you're going over and over the same things, like it's become more about posting on here than the problem. What more do you want people to say? The same again and again?

Well I was over it (or as much as I could) until my manager discussed it with me for like the 3rd time.

And I finally got more of a reason beyond the "I'm doing you a favour".

Now that I've seen on Workday, I'll just go a have a little cry. I wish I could care a lot less but it still affects me.