Red nose day- dress as the opposite gender

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My DD (8) told me today that for red nose day they have to dress as the opposite gender. It was voted for by student council, unsure if it was their suggestion or that they just voted on it. AIBU to think this is totally out of order and tone deaf? Dressing as the opposite gender is not funny or to be made fun of.

10 years ago, parents would be up in arms about this about gender stereotypes (and quite rightly so)

Sadly, we have now regressed so far that we are hoping this just enforces stereotypes and doesn't indoctrinate them into wanting to change gender.

Terrifying times. I would not be happy about this at all.

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All the kids could just wear jeans and a top.

It's really boring 😴 tiresome hearing the same thing rhetoric lectured constantly about,
like general public are hard of hearing dementia Geriatric population...

Interesting to see different takes on this.

Clearly, some posters are seeing this as pushing a transgender agenda.

I didn't get that at all. I read it as a case of stereotyping male/female clothing and the children just going into school in the stereotypical clothing of the opposite sex; whatever that's supposed to mean, which isn't 'fun' but old fashioned and boring.

So many children live in what amounts to unisex clothing anyway now, surely most of them would just be able to wear their everyday clothes.

Is the school expecting the boys to dress up in cutesy, frilly dresses? Do they not know that girls don't dress that way any more?

The whole thing seems rather stupid, pointless and frankly distasteful in this day and age tbh.

I would find this annoying, I hate dressing up days anyway and my kids never liked them. Thankfully they are late teens/young adults now so those days are behind me.

I would take a sick day or have car trouble (if you are worried the 8 year old would spill the beans!).

If it’s essentially fancy dress I don’t see the harm. Something like this happened at work about 30 years ago for Red Nose Day, some people dressed up as the opposite sex and played a game of basketball at a nearby leisure centre at lunchtime. It was quite good fun actually with some of the women wearing cloth caps and moustaches and the men in dresses.

Eh? Do you think it’s a dastardly plot, and that some boys will find they rather like wearing a dress and will “turn trans”?

If anything it is rather insensitive to current gender considerations, setting up the idea that dressing in a gender non-conforming way is comedic.

OP I think this sounds really poorly thought out and insensitive to all sorts of issues, including gender stereotyping, religious dress and risks of bullying and abuse.

So glad my Grandsons don't go to school.
Youngest always wore leggings.. loved pink trainers.. was very vocal about boys and girls clothing departments.. saying they shouldn't be separate.
I simply would not engage.. especially in this day and age.
It's ridiculous.. it's just not right..
Someone needs to complain..

Well, it reinforces in children's minds that boys dress one way and girls another.

That's very regressive, stereotypical shite. Teaching staff should have used it vast a teachable moment to say that it's nonsense.

It’s children having a bit of fun. It’s far more likely to be easy and cheap to borrow a school tie from a neighbour or cousin than come up with a “dress as your favourite character” costume.

No religious girls/staff wearing hijab/modest clothes that mean they can't wear trousers at this school, then?..

Perhaps they could do an assembly on Why Stereotypes Are Bad for Red Nose Day.

How to annoy gender critical people and genderists at once ! What would 'non binary' kids do? Don't plenty of the girls already wear trousers?

This isn't great in an environment where kids are meant to be taught stuff seeing as 'gender' is not binary (unlike sex) so that there can't be an 'opposite'. I think someone has got themselves in a muddle! Still, I guess it means you can wear anything?!

I wasn't aware genders had a specific dress code.

Go in birthday suit!?!?

What if the child has no siblings of the opposite gender to borrow clothes from.. The parents have to go out and buy a dress???

Assumption being girls all wear dresses?

Most girls are in leggings / joggers and hoodies - the same as boys.

What a treat for the gender non conforming kids. Go in clothes you actively dislike. It will be fun!

They seem to have found a way to annoy both TRAs and GCs. That takes some doing!

Who’s bettering 9/10 kids turn up in jeans and a t-shirt?

I think this is completely inappropriate and I would complain to school about it tbh.

There's a transgender girl in DD's Y3 class. No chance would she dress as a boy.

I agree. They did this at my child's school about six years ago and I complained that all they were doing was enforcing stereotypes of what a girl looks like and what a boy looks like. Clothes are for everyone. Why not just have a "dress however you like day" if you want children to explore expression through clothes.

Me.

4 in jeans/pink leggings and t-shirt, 4 in football kit, one princess and one who refused point blank to wear anything but school uniform/the parents didn't read the class WhatsApp and forgot all about it.

Brilliant! Good luck with those!

What a bizarre, regressive and stereotypical suggestion!

Perhaps the parents can agree that all the children wear jeans and a t-shirt as that works for everyone no matter their sex or gender, rather than following this daft suggestion